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*jf1989
writes:hello everyone.i am 18 years old and I am relocating from Brooklyn NY to a Philly suburb. I have lived in Brooklyn all my life. I pretty much do not have much friends and i have never even kissed a girl (let alone have a girlfriend). There is proabaly alot of reasons for this.Regardless, I feel I am in the point in my life for a serious relationship. The only problem is I am moving to a place where I know nobody and based on my past I do not want my "black cloud" to follow me. Maybe I sound a little strange but I am a very shy person (and not the best looking) but how do you find a girlfriend? Or what are some tips to still be yourself but find ways for girls to be attracted to you? If anything what are some tips on finding friends in a new city?
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (25 June 2007):
 I would suggest that once you get settled in to your new place, go out and make as many new friends as possible. Join various college and university clubs, or find a local community center/group. Make friends with everyone, and at some point, the more friends you ahve, the more these friends will introduce you to girls they know. It is called, Social Circle Building.
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reader, Cateyes +, writes (25 June 2007):
 Always remember, it's not about what you look like, it's about who you are as a person. People are automatically drawn to friendly, loving people and it sounds like you are already this person. Though you might be shy, try to do some of the maybe out of the normal things...such as..a smile to some one you might be interested in with good eye contact. Maybe even a just a friendly hello to. Get involved with school activities to meet more classmates. I take it you are in school? It's just really getting involved with the others. It's kinda like a domino effect, once you meeet one, then here comes another and another. Sometimes, you do have to take some risk. Just walking up to a girl and sparking up a conversation...you can do it. Never say you can't, you have to try it first and even if it doesn't go as well as maybe you planned, that doesn't mean you stop. No one can play a sport and be there best unless they practice, right? Just see it that way, you just keep on practicing....you will meet her..have some faith!Best of Luck to you!!!
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