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writes:I am looking for some advice on spending the summer away from my boyfriend.My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly seven months. This might not seem long but we have been living in uni halls of residence and so have seen each other for a large part of every day. For the last two weeks we have had no lectures or exams and have probably spent about 20 hours out of 24 together. Unfortunately now we have gone home for the summer and live approximately 300 miles away from each other. We have gone home for three months and can only afford to travel to see each other once each way (we both live in obscure places and it will involve a concocotion of planes and trains etc to get there).I will now not see him for seven weeks and there is a two and a half week period when I basically will be out of contact with him completely (he is going to somewhere in Africa where it will be extortionate for him to text/call...although yes there will be email).I am just worried as I feel so down at the moment. I really miss him. I know that our relationship is strong enough to get through this, but at the same time I wish we didn't have to.What I really wanted was any advice on how to get though this without feeling so tortured all the time.Cheers xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for all your advice. I know that in the grand scheme of things my problem is not that bad. At least I have love. Thank you for showing me that this is something I can deal with. xxx
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reader, rosylips +, writes (26 June 2007):
 you'll be fine. divide the time until you see him into portions and tell yourself..im a quarter of the way through, third of the way through etc etc. Concentrate on the fact that you are two individuals in love and need to give each other some space to be yourselves. You could even send emails daily, weekly or whatever...even if you know he cant read them - fill him in on whats been happening in your life! Remember time is all in the mind - remember when you were little christmas was such a long long time away and as you get older it flies round, because you can emotionally cope with it. Just let him have his adventure and you have fun while he is away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2007): Real relationship can be tested this way. what I mean is that you will find out if you or him do actually love each other. Taking time out from each other may be one way of testing your love and honesty.Don't worry, weeks will pass by quickly and if your love and support to each other grows stronger, then you where meant for each other. A bit of distance is healthy.in the mean time I suggest that you keep in touch by phone, email, etc..Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2007): hey huni just wanted to let you know you are not the first one or only in it that situation. i just spent the 4 month spring semester in france away from my boyfriend of 8 months. it was one of the hardest things ive had to deal with in my life thus far because he is my world. for the first couple weeks it felt like torture and it sucked soooo bad. but eventually you have to just get into the swing of things and keep going and before you know it he'll be back to you in no time. i know it seems like forever before you'll be together again but really if you try to talk to each other as often as time allows and you email every chance you get, it'll make it much easier. just try to stay busy with other friends, or work, or family. believe me i know exactly how you are feeling but in my opinion it was the greatest thing my bf and i did for our relationship. if you can pass the test of a solid time apart and the distance you can inevitably survive anything. plus it will make your reunion back together one of the sweetest moments ever. i will always remember our "second" first kiss we shared when he picked me up at the airport. i promise it'll be worth the wait and the agony. just like i said before try to keep busy and take every opportunity to talk/email you get. you'll get through this!good luck and have a wonderful summer~C~
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