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writes:My friend said the girl I'm dating is ugly. I've only been on three dates with her, but I am attracted to her even though most of the attraction isn't from her looks. I was going to ask her to be my girlfriend, but now I'm scared other people will judge me as the guy with an ugly girlfriend. I know this sounds shallow but I don't know what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, arielthh  +, writes (21 March 2010):
 As you say, be more deep. Who cares what others may think? Live your life.
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reader, boo22  +, writes (19 March 2010):
 I know a guy who's in his forties now and he's dating a girl who has the wow factor looks wise and she attracts attention wherever they go.
All his mates were green with envy at first and he would strut round the bars they hang out in as proud as a peacock. She complained that he didn't want to have sex with her often enough one night when we were all out one night.
Nobody could believe he didn't want to have sex with her a thousand times a day. Before he met her he was seeing a girl who sounds like your maybe girlfriend. All his friends used to talk and snigger about her behind his back. They broke up cos she wasn't in with the in crowd enough and so he pressed the self destruct button.
Point is he's not happy now cos he's not with the girl he likes, he's with the girl his mates approve of. It takes a real man to not follow the crowd. Don't be like this guy i know. If you fancy her and like her, stay with it.
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reader, buddhistfriend  +, writes (19 March 2010):
My dad told me a story about the best looking guy in their group of friends when he was younger. That guy always dated the ugliest girls and his friends always made fun of him. He didn't care at all and told them that they didn't know what they were missing, that ugly girls made the best girlfriends. First, you never had to worry about them cheating. But more importantly, they were much more caring, affectionate and tried harder to be good to you. So, if I were you, and you find her hot, do not act upon what other people think. You could be missing out on a great experience, one that could be good for you and her. When they make fun of you, just do what my dad's friend did. They all respected him for it. You just have to have the right attitude.
And just to tell you, women love men who have ugly girlfriends. IT means they are not shallow and makes them even hotter.
So, go for it!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (19 March 2010):
If you can't accept her for who she is, and you won't tell your friends that you love her and it doesn't matter, then end it now. Nothing gets in the way of love. To you, she should be the most beautiful woman on earth. If she's not, just end it. Don't waste her time or yours. You accept a woman for who she is, no matter what. Either accept her, or get rid of her now.
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (19 March 2010):
 Don't listen to your friends! You're attracted to the girl, like the girl, and that's all that matters.
In grade school, I befriended this girl who was mentally slow and I was always teased by my class for doing so. But she never had any friends and I just ignored them. I know that's nothing like what you're going through, but the message here is to follow your heart (you like this girl) and to ignore the teasing and the possible rumor that you're dating an "ugly" girl.
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