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writes:I am a 16 year old boy named Cherno. I am a mulatto. I was born in Sweden, my mom is Swedish and my dad is Nigerian (African).I lived in Sweden before moving to Canada. It is not easy being of two races, but I always identify myself with white. I wanna be white, not black at all. Ever since I was little, in school, friends have called me different things. They do not know what I am, but when people ask me if I am part black, I say nope, not at all...I do not want to have any associations with black. I make up stories to my friends that I am full white, im just a bit tanned from the sun. I know myself that I am more white mentally and physically. I listen to rock music, I act white, and I dress white...I guess...? I dont know, but I want some advice and help on how I can make my friends and other people think I am white. How can change myself and what can I do?? If I am biracial...I only wanna be white (full Swedish). I always try soo hard to try to act white and make my friends think so. So, I really want tips and help on what features I can change and etc. I have died my hair blonde highlights a number of times. When my hair grows out, it becomes wavy and curly, that is where people get the "Black" idea from. However when I cut it, it becomes straight, i have a bit tanned skin, and obviously my nose and lips..i guess make up something. Please, tell me how to be white, I dont care, I only want suggestions and help on to be white!Thankyou Reply to this Question
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reader, Cherno +, writes (7 April 2011):
Cherno is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni don't get it....people have not called me racist things though, they have only questioned my ethnicity...I actually prefer white people than black, so even though im both, i am a little racist towards one...? So umm...they have called me "Italian, African, Spanish, German..different things, which pisses me off.
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reader, The Realist +, writes (7 April 2011):
 First thing is the fact that you are not just white. You are who you are and there is nothing wrong with that. I have multiple friends who are mulatto and there is nothing wrong with that. Music, clothing and life style doesn't have a race. At least here in Canada it doesn't. Don't be ashamed of being part black. One of these friends is planning on going to law so if you think being part black is holding you back at all then you are wrong.
I am white and I have no idea how to tell you to be white. You listen to rock music and I love rap race doesn't matter. You don't have to fit into a stereotype, you can dress however you want.
I also have a nigerian biochemistry prof who is a great guy. I know you have probably had some things said to you that shouldn't be said but it happens to everyone. It really comes down to the fact that you are who you are but that doesn't mean you have to be a certain way. Be proud of who you are and rock your life how ever you see fit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2011): You are on a downward spiral here, kid.Whether you accept it or not, your heritage cannot be changed and will never change. By denying you Nigerian heritage you essentially are saying that your father is less important. That his culture and his beliefs mean nothing to you.What kind of disrespect is that? You are bi-racial. Get over it. There are worse things in this world.I'm bi-racial. My mother is Polish and my father hails from Irish stock. Should I deny my Polish side simply because they speak a different language?You are half Nigerian. Half Swedish. Why on Earth is this even an issue in this century? More to the point, why does it affect you so? Why are you so embarrassed by your own heritage.Why be racist that you would essentially hold the middle finger up to what amounts to a big part of your history because you don't like 'blacks'?There is no way to act or do anything to 'be more white'. Like all things concerning race, you either are white or you're not. You can respect, understand and love a culture as much as you want, but to trully 'be' anything you have to be born into that life.I love Ancient Roman culture but were I to travel back in time and visit it, I could dress and act the part as much as I want. But I wouldn't 'BE' a Roman. Because I was not born into that life and that race.Just the way things are. We are what we are. And today being more than one thing is not to be ashamed of. It is good. It is equal to those who proport to be one race.Racism is a No. If a black and white couple feel the love, then all the more power to them and any children they have.But you have to learn to respect both sides of your heritage, even if you feel a greater pull to one over the other.Flynn 24
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