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writes:Hi Everyone!I really really really like this boy, but I don't know how to tell him without getting embarassed!And my friends all say that I can't ask him out because it will make me look desperate and if he says no I will look stupid.What do I do?!!Please reply to this because I really need help!Thanks x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2007): It will not make you look desperate at all. If you follow him around and keep on asking and asking, then yeah...that will make you look desperate. Trust me that guys find confidence sexy. Really. My girlfriend has wonderful confidence and believe me guys fall for that. If a guy wants someone submissive...than you can kind of see his intentions so stay away from them. Plus, those type of guys are not respectful at all. I do agree with the other answer...look at him in another setting with friends and other people. I've had female friends who found one of my friends extremely gorgeous but when we all went out to a bar, they found him to have wonderful looks...but not much of a person to talk to.
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (7 April 2007):
 No way does a girl asking a guy out make her look desperate. That idea went out a LONG time ago. Of course it DOES open you up to the possibility that he might say "no" and you would feel rejected. That's always the chance that someone in a relationship has to take or there will never be a relationship.
Get to know him better in a more social setting, with more of your mutual friends around. See how he reacts to you. If he seems to be friendly and interested, then maybe you'll raise you confidence level enough to pop the question. Or who knows ... he might even end up asking YOU out.
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reader, angony amy +, writes (6 April 2007):
hi,i have been in this situation myself, if u can ever get the guy alone with no one else around just start a conversation off by saying something like, hi, i was just wondering if you like me, if not then accept it and move on, theres plenty more fish in the sea, and if he says yes but only in a freindly way then get to know him, and accept the fact that he wants you as a freind, and if he says he fancies you, then go for it and ask him out, i mean the worst he could say is no thank you, but if you do get embarresed then hold your head up high, and show the world you are strong and that you dont care what anyone else thinks of you.trust me take my advice and good luckyours sincerly angony amy (amy)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2007): I know what you mean I'm 13 and I really liked this guy and a lot of his friends told me that he liked me 2 but he would never talk 2 me so I didn't really believe it!!!!But I asked him if he liked me and he said yes and I told him that I liked him 2!!!Then he told me you wanna talk and one thing led 2 another and he asked me 2 be his girlfriend and he was only 12 and I was 11 and now we're 2 years 2gether!!!!Just try 2 ask him out and if he says no get on with your life just remember that there is plenty of guys and your'e still very young!!! Have the guts to ask him out don't wait 4 him!!!! I was gonna ask my b/f out but he asked me first but at least I ahd the guts 2 ask him if he liked me!!! So just try it,nothing bad will happen if you just try it!!! GOOD LUCK!!!!!!P.S= You can email me whenever you want I'll try 2 help u out more!!!!!Sincerely, Selenne:)
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reader, Costello +, writes (6 April 2007):
 Right, ok, well you're friends are being silly, because if you ask him out you are NOT seeming desperate. People ask others out all the time. But what not to do is go up to him and say "i really really like you" and leave it at that, cause boys hate that. I suggest, if you are friendly with him, try and catch him when hes walking home or something, and say "do you fancy going out for some coffee" or something. Have a plan. And if he say no, you can always use my favourite line "Why not? its not like im asking you out on a date or anything!". Lol. But if you arent too friendly with him yet, try talking to him a bit, getto know him a little more before yu confess to him. And dont let your friends tell you your stupid for it, cause they are probably just jelous cause you probably have a good chance! Hope i helped ^^
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (6 April 2007):
 I don't think it makes you look desperate but if you trust your friends maybe you could organise a night out as opposed to a 'date'...your friends, his friends...see where it leads?
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