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writes:I am very much in love with my boyfriend, and he is in love with me. We've been together for over a year and in a few months I will be leaving for college. I'll be attending a university in New York City, only a few hours away from where we live. He loves the city, has access to an apartment there and goes all the time. I want to try and keep us together for as long as we can. I know it won't be forever, but forever doesn't have to start in August. We haven't had "the talk" yet, but I'm so not ready for this relationship to end. If I could spend the rest of my life with him I would, and under different circumstances we could. We're perfect for one another, literally we were made for each other and he believes this too. Do "long" distance relationships ever work out?
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reader, pandah  +, writes (13 June 2010):
im in the same boat.. ive met a really nice boy on holidays but he lives far away, he text me today and when i left the hotel we both cried, i cant get him out of my head but i also want to know if LDR work:/ x
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reader, YouWish +, writes (10 June 2010):
 The relationship CAN work, but you have to ask yourself which is more important, your relationship or your educational and professional future?
College is a very intense and crucial time in your life. Your FIRST focus can't be on your relationship, or you'll squander the opportunity of a lifetime. And truthfully? To make the long distance relationship work requires a LOT of effort you may not be able to afford.
You will regret it for life if you waste this time in your life pining and worrying and arranging and skipping school for long weekends with this guy. And then there's the inevitable "Is he cheating on me because he can't have me" thing going on, and then the depression that totally de-rails your life goals.
I don't mean to be a downer, but I suggest letting this relationship go with this guy and not pursuing the long distance aspect. Go to New York with a clear and clean slate and get done what you need to. See him when you get home on holiday, but focus on your education! Be just friends with him is my suggestion.
YES, the LDR could work, but at what cost??
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reader, virus1902  +, writes (10 June 2010):
Im facing the same problem. I also want to spend my rest of my life with him . However, i find there are some problems in communicaioi and connecting between us. I havent recieved his call lasts two days . The reason he gave me is that he stayed with his mom, so he is not able to call me, the same time, he told me he loves me. I really feel it is funny. I dont think his mother follows him all day!! So you can not drop your study, going to have your new life and keeping on touch with him , then you will get a decision as i. Now, i think i almost got a answer. Prospection is more important i prefer to.
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