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writes:i don't want to have sex with my boyfriend because i'm not yet ready but everytime he touched me in areas gives me tickles and make me want to do it and i cant think well during that state. then everytime he tries to stick his thing in I cry and he stops so i think he cares about me. does he really love me? i'm 18, should i give it to him? it hurts so much everytime he tries to stick it in. it seems like it won't fit so i just cry. please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you for the answers everyone.. it really helped me alot..
it's done.. i did it! ^^ i really did
well i really didn't do anything i hope he enjoyed it. i just want to make him happy
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reader, Rhandy +, writes (25 June 2009):
 If youre not ready, dont give yourself in. Sex is given not by force. However if you find yourself that he is the right one, what you do is more relax and lots of foreplay.First time in sex is painful especially if you feel not comfortable however if a guy know what hes doing and lots of foreplay maybe pain will be lessen. Always remember that give your virginity to someone you realy love and he loves you also not by lust.hope might help, kabayan.
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reader, identifiable  +, writes (24 June 2009):
 im a virgin too and your worrying me lool .. no im kidding the fact is loosing your virginity is painful but not excruciating , you may have a low pain threshold or your too tense ... maybe its pyschological and you think the pain is worse than it is, that may sound stupid but it like a pin when you accidently hit one it pricks and you say ow ... but when you know your gonna prick yourself with one you gte worried aggitated and over emphasise the pain by lnking the minor pain to anxiety.... the point is you need to relax and not think about the pain, maybe even getting slightly tspy i know that un authodox and quite bad to say, but youll be more carefree and you both consent and establish thaat before hand. Good luck ..P.s he sounds like a nice guy
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (24 June 2009):
 It could be because you aren't relaxed (perhaps because he is just the wrong person for you) when we are stressed and not relax our vaginal muscles tighten up, if this happens often the anxiety of it happening again can make it happen again this is called vaginismus. Another reason is that you could not be turned on enough, your body is maybe too stressed and not producing its natural lubrication. You could just have a tight vagina or he could have a large penis. If you want to have sex with him then make sure he wears a condom!!! But nobody can tell you whether you are ready and whether he is the one to give your virginity too, you have to think about this yourself. X
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