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writes:Heya, I've been with my boyfriend about 3 months now, I'm 14 and in year 10 and he's 16 and left school. I really like him and he wants to have sex with me. I don't want to yet and I've told him, he's fine with it and said that he would wait until I was totally ready. Even though I don't want to have sex I want to do other "things".I'd like some advice on how to start these "things" as I don't think he would try anything because he thinks I don't want to do anything and I think he's waiting for me to take the first step.Help please!?x Reply to this Question
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reader, Crisy +, writes (12 January 2008):
 Really, what you need to do is start with alot of hugging and kissing. Tease hima little, mabye unbutton his flies etc. he should get the hints.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2008): He says he's not pressuring you and he'll wait? Don't trust that too much. I'm 15 myself and I can relate to you when you say you really like him and have the urge to do other "things" but think about the consequences.. he's too young too take anyone seriusly right now.. what about when you guys break up? You'll be left feeling used and it goes on to the next guy! Just wait sweetie your young and there's plenty of guys who really WONT expect that from you
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2008): Liking him, even a lot, is no good reason to change your life forever at this age.
Please don't do it. Dr. John (below) is correct about the issues, and please be glad this fellow you like may not pressure you into things you should not be doing at this point in your life. Have fun doing other stuff with others, but sex is something that could affect the rest of your life in very negative ways.
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reader, Dr. John  +, writes (5 January 2008):
 Hon,
At your age you should not even consider dabbling in sex of any kind.
I have spoken with many who were only wanting to do what you want to do' only to end up pregnant a short time later.
Some have even come back and told me that they wish they had listened to me.
What they basically did was to throw their childhood away.
Sex is too uncontrollable to be playing with especially when you are in a torrent of horemones such as you are at the age you two are. You may think you can control yourself and that may be true on your part but what about him?
Statistics show that girls are a little better at self control when it comes to sex, but what about him?
He may get out of control and though I don't think he would force you into anything from what you are saying about him but maybe by that point you would not need much convincing and...........You see how things can happen?
I do hope you heed my advice.
Presuming you will not, just let him know what you are willing to do and it will come easy I am sure. Doc
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reader, chica_23 +, writes (5 January 2008):
hahahha, well...havent we all been there. My love right now, had the same problem at the beginning. He is older than me, and i wasnt ready to go all the way. So one day when we were together i told him how i felt and then i told him that it didnt mean i wasnt ready to have a physical relationship. From then on, we took things a little bit slower than he would have liked but it worked out, the answer for you is to be honest with him.
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