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writes:When I met my girlfriend, it was supposed to be a physical no strings attached kind of relationship. She has a son, something that never bothered me before because I wasn't trying to get serious. I myself don't really want children at all. About a year after meeting her, we decided to be a couple. I love her madly. We live together and I am basically stepmom to her son. Over the past couple months I have fallen in love with him also but I still feel like children are not for me. I am in the military and will be moving out of state within the year. In the back of my mind, as much as I love her, I don't want them to move with me. I feel horrible for having these feelings but I can't stop them. What should I do?
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (7 December 2010):
 you should tell her and let her help you come to the right decision. there is no reason why you have to break it off with her completely is there? if you love each other you can have a different sort of relationship for a while, if she is in agreement with this of course. maybe in the future you will decide to live together, just let her know exactly how you feel. i hope you can work things out together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2010): Tell her immediately. Your girlfriend is a package deal (ie family unit)and if in the long run, its not something that you really want, then break it off-like yesterday NOW!!!
What you are doing is not fair to her or her son...... and if you were really loved them, then break up now.
It's great that you love her and the son, but it seems that your only considering your feelings in the relationship. Do the right thing and break it off before more attachment is created!!!!
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