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writes:What should I do? Went out with girl 4.5 years, she cheated, we got back together, she dumped me we got back together. End of last year was dumped again, I'm thinking cheating again .. Swears not no one else.. She wants no contact, I'm still being friendly (this has happened before after all) she acts 'odd' I find out there is someone else at least 2 days after me,, communication stops. So as confirmed 100% lying to me I walk away... I find out now she's pregnant (very), I've no idea when baby due. She totally refuses contact, estimate (roughly from her size) she was pregnant when dumped me? Sure was when saying not seeing anyone. Guessing other guy is thinking 100% his ... I'm thinking ?!??!? What should I do ? Wait to find out date born ? Help!
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (8 April 2012):
I agree with the answer directly below mine, the one at the bottom isnt very considerate of your feelings sorry. I would get in contact with her even if she doesnt want to hear from you, you have a right to ask and you definitely have a right to know ! I cant imagine how you are feeling right now. Im not sure who could help you out with arranging DNA tests after birth, your GP might know where you need to go to arrange this. in any case DEFINITELY get a DNA test done, you have a right to know and in this case I would not take her word for it if she says its not yours, as she has already proven shes not on good terms with the truth. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2012): If you are seriously thinking the child is yours and you arent doing it just to stay in her life then you would have to wait until the babys born and go through the court system so they can order her to take a dna test. Based on your history with her then the court will probably side with you and not deny a dna test. Idk how it works where you are but i know in the us they can get you for back child support even if years have passed and you didnt know the child is yours. But just remember that after this she wont want anything to do with you if its not yours and even if it is things can get really messy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2012): If you're hoping a baby will make her come back to you think again. She keeps dumping you probably its the other guy who got her pregnant as she was probably cheating on you before she last dumped you. Its not your busines why shes pregnant if she hasn't said anything. Just leave her alone
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