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writes:hey My bf and i are long distance at the min, for about another month. We text quite a bit and when my phone buzzes and shows his name i feel so great i cant describe it.Firstly i worry that i might text him too much Although he sometimes texts me first I do tend to text him first I have spoken to him about this and he said that i dont and that he is happy when texting me but i still worry as i dont wantt him to think that my life revolves around himSecondly i sometimes just wanna here from him and will text 'hi hows ur day going?' Is this ok to do? (you may have guessed bt now that this is my first 'proper' relationship) He sometimes doesn't reply for a long time and i begin to worry and wish that i shouldnt have text itI dont wanna get on his nerves and although i have had some reasurance i still worryThanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2006): No Im Sure He Wants To Hear From U As Much As Possible
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2006): I usually text my partner during the day.One day i was told dont ever think i dont still love you because i might not text back its just because im busy at work and sometimes i never get the chance to reply.Dont be paronoid if they dont text you back its the worse thing you can do.And i dont think your b/f has ever thought his life revolves around you as you are only texting him to let him know that he is still in your thoughts.
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reader, camille +, writes (27 September 2006):
 It's all fine. The one thing you need to remember is we didn't always have mobile phones and so people often didn't get back to you immediately. Just because we have mobiles shouldn't mean he has to reply immediately but just because he doesn't reply don't think you made a mistake. (Mobiles can make you paranoid!) Maybe you think because he doesn't reply straight away that his life doesn't revolve around you and so now you're trying to tell yourself that neither does yours for him...I'm not so sure! Your theory of 'your world not revolving around him' goes out of the window if you 'need' an instant response.
As this is your first big relationship, try to take it slow and enjoy it. Don't add pressures by worrying. If you feel like texting, text. But don't panic, he may be busy, or phone off, or out of signal. Whatever you do, don't follow up an "ignored" text with another asking why? then you will have troubles! Good luck.
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reader, sugapuff  +, writes (27 September 2006):
 hi hungod i know exactly what you mean i text my bf alotim just a very yappy person and we get free texts to each other he doesnt care cause he knows how i am!hed always text and say gonna be a bit busy now and stuff like that when he cant text me!i dont think youve anything to worry about!i used to worry when i didnt get a reply but now im more settled into the relationship i know hes just busy or asleep or his battery died or hes no phone credit and hel get back to me when he can!stop worryin about this your guy is clearly into you and likes texting you!its just eveyday life gets in the way of wb sometimes!relax and enjoy what you have!dont worry be happy!!
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