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writes:i think im pregnant but i dont want my boyfriend to know, how can i stop him from finding out, i told my mom and she considered moving. Please dont think bad about me, im doing this for him, because my parents were teens and it destroyed my dad, i love my boyfriend to much to do that to him Reply to this Question
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reader, bovvalicious  +, writes (13 August 2007):
 i think you should discuss this with ur bf rather than not tell him. he has a right to know and he might decided to be there for u. im sure that you would rather have he around his baby.
if he chooses not to be around at least you can say you gave him a choice and then explain this to ur baby when its older.
i think that you mum is tryin to protect you from gettin hurt by moving but you mum should insist you tell your bf and sit down and talk about it as a family you bf and his family included aswell
hope i helped. good luck x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2007): hi im 15 and honestly u should tell him and if he dosnt undersatnd and breaks up with u hes not worth ur time and probably dsnt deserve ur love any ways so be strong and tell him just be suttle and if he didnt want to face the facts he shouldnt have been thinking solely about sex throught the relationship
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (11 August 2007):
 Why is this for his own good?
Well i can tell you its not, he has every right to know your pregnant as you do as he is the father.
You say your parents were in this postion well you have someone to talk to about what you plan to do for the next few years.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (10 August 2007):
 Can you just tell me in what way exactly are you doing this for him?
If he is the father of your child babe he has a right to know, just because your parents were teens and things for them were not good it does not mean the same will be the case for you two.
Role reversal, how would you feel if you were your boyfriend and you were not told about your imminent child, and he will find out at some point things like that always come out.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2007): What do you mean your mom considered moving? Do you mean move with you? If you do that it's wrong. Your child needs to know her father. And your boyfriend's family would want to know the child as well. It's just as much his fault that this happened as it is yours. You're being selfish in wanting to "save" him. This is his kid. You have no right to take it away from him & his family. I'm sure in the end that your father is glad he had you. And that isn't for you to decide, just b/c your father wasn't prepared to be a father at a young age doesn't mean the same thing will happen with you & your boyfriend. Tell him & if he wants no part of it, at least you gave him an option. How will you tell your child when she asks "where's my daddy?" Are you going to tell her you didn't want daddy to know she existed and that you ran away from him b/c she is so horrible that you knew daddy's life would be runined? This is sad. And your mom is being unreasonable too if she is in on this idea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2007): Basically I think he has a right to know. What are you going to do with your baby? You may be suprised with how he reacts. You didn't say what your going to do so it's hard to answer.
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