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writes:My ex left me with no warning and refused to give me any one good reason why. I was good to him, didn't cheat and didn't give him any cause that I could think of to make him treat me this way. I was very angry about this and was very nasty to him via text on a couple of occasions after he was nasty to me and ended up drunk dialling on one occasion. Now he won't speak to me at all. I'm ashamed of what I did as I am normally a good person who doesn't like upsetting people. I acted under extreme pressure and have since told him this. Do you think he understands this and forgives me, or hates me? I don't want to get back with him, but I hate falling out with people. Would you understand and forgive what I did or not?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks! You are right what you say. Never thought of it that way. My ex said he likes his solitude-I hope he really enjoys it because he'll have a lot of it if he treats people the way he does. He's a 35 yr old man who has the maturity of a teenage boy. Somebody said the other day that he badmouths me for sending him those texts, but they think he's just trying to put the blame on me instead of facing up to the fact that what I did is because what he's done, and behaving like an adult. Can't be a****d psycho-analysing him- don't think his mind is a nice place to be. Carrying on with life and ignoring him whenever I see him. He isn't even worth a hello. In fact he's not worth s***t and I'm better off rid. Thanks again and take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2009): I think you should ask yourself whether it's worth getting upset with yourself or blaming yourself for falling out with a guy who doesn't respect you.
You had every right to be angry because he left you without closure and the sending a couple of angry texts is perfectly understandable and a fairly minor thing to do.
Why do you want the forgiveness and understanding of a person that didn't give you a chance to either understand or forgive him for dumping you in the first place?
In direct answer to your questions there is no way of knowing without talking to him, but if I were in your shoe's I wouldn't give a crap what a fool like him thinks of me, he should be the one looking for forgiveness.
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