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writes:i liked this girl who knew that i liked her but she said she doesnt like me. There was alot of awkwardness between us for a long time and it was annoying, so i just said that im over her and i want to be just good friends. Since then we have become really good friends and have been talking alot....it is nice. The problem is that i still like her, ALOT.I dont know how to behave in front of her when she is more around other guys and plays around with them more than me....that feeling is still there in me. I get a bit annoyed with the fact that she sometimes gives more priority to my friends than me. I have tried to overcome this weakness but its still there.Now, i THINK she likes one of my closest friends who already is in love and a relationship with some other girl....she kind of wants him to break up with her, although she just says that he is only a friend. That friend of mine is a bit creeped out though and he knows i like this girl. I dont know what to do in these situations, she is a good friend and i dont wanna lose her, but at the same time....i dont want her to be with some other dude....especially one my friends....should i let her go? or should i do sth?if i am to do sth what should i do? plz help [mod note: what does "sth" mean?] Reply to this Question
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (27 May 2011):
To my mind, the only thing that you can do that will give you any chance to have what you want, is to talk to her. You would have to be honset with her, tell her that you are enjoying having her as a friend, but that you still like her as more than a friend and that it is hard for you to be close to her worrying that she might not be interested in you, and that she might be interested in one of your friends, and that you want to know if she is interested in being more than friends with you. Its a really hard conversation to have, you would be making yourself totally vulnerable, and she would feel vulnerable too so she might react badly, she might not know how to react. However, its really the only option I can think of for you to really get what you want. More importantly, it is an option which allows you to be true to yourself and your feelings. This is something that is hugely important that people don't think about a lot, but being true to yourself and expressing your true feelings to people is really really important. It can be hard, and you don't always get what you want, but then you can deal with that. Most important is to be true to yourself.
Good luck.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 May 2011):
Sorry buddy, but you have no say whatsoever in who she sees, or which friends she chooses to spend time with. This is a situation where you need to let her go.
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