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30-35,
*ussiediva
writes:I want to spend every possible minute of the day with my boyfriend of 18 months. We live together, but we both work part time and study. He works from 3pm until 9pm most nights and I work all weekend.I realise that I'm obsessed with him, and for a long time he reciprocated. We'd go out on dates, we do little things like make dinner together or watch TV, but suddenly he's all about doing his own thing, which is mostly playing computer games all night, or going out with friends leaving me home alone. I don't understand why this changed. I can't dial it back like he does and it gets me so upset. He tells me I'm selfish and that I frustrate him by wanting him so much. He thinks that just going to sleep together, or being in the same room is spending time, but we don't have as much sex anymore, we hardly talk and I feel like I know him less and less.Is he right, am I being selfish? Is this just the end of a honeymoon period? I miss him, and the way we used to love each other so much. Now I feel like I'm not wanted and not loved anymore
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reader, cocoqueen88  +, writes (9 August 2010):
 Too much time together can ruin a relationship. You ARE being a little selfish. he doesn't have to spend every waking moment with you. you both need time to "miss" each other.
you need to go out with friends or find a hobby that doesn't include him. have a life outside of your relationship with him. you've made the all too common mistake of making him your life instead of making him a part of your life.
since you live together you need to develope time apart and a time together. stop bugging that man about being with you because that's probably what's pushing him away. let him miss you and he'll come back around.
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