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writes:i don't understand why i don't have a boyfriend. it seems like ever since i broke up with my boyfriend of two years i cant seem to find another boyfriend..i mean i have been in relationships after that but they just have all gone wrong. plus some of them are not my type but yet i try to work it out anyway..but it still doesnt work out! i mean at times i like being single..but some times it truly sucks!!..i just want one man i can give my all too..i want only one man that can satisfy my needs 100%..not tom, dick and harry! but just one..i am a one man woman..i want to be in a long term relationship..but i just cant find the rite man..i mean so many men say that im pretty, sexy, fine and all that good jazz..they even say how good of person i am..but yet i dont have a man by my side..isnt that crazy?..can somebody tell me why..help me..im confused
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reader, KITTYKITTY09 +, writes (11 March 2009):
KITTYKITTY09 is verified as being by the original poster of the question no he is with my best friend now..lol...funny huh..no im not still in love with him..i deserve someone better than him..he tries to get back in my life but i changed my number..but i do have my eye on this other dude..and he likes me a lot..lol
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reader, Valyda  +, writes (10 March 2009):
I understand very well what you mean. I broke up with my boy friend of 3 and half year 5 years ago and waited almost 3 years to date anyone and yet I am still single. All the guys I have given a chance to don't make me happy. I have even grown to liking being single. My ex and I even started dating again long distance and broke up again because we are not distance people. But let me tell you we still love each other very much as we communicate. Now he has a girl friend and I want him back. So maybe you still love your ex, is he single?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2009): thanks guys..i am not saying that i need a man..i was just saying that i want one..i never said that i needed one..i have been single for two years..and it just so happens hit me today that so far the men i've dated were jerks and that i have been single for so long. no im not saying that i need a man to make me happy..as of right now i am happy with my family and friends. my school and work as well..its just that i would like to have a man by my side as well..im not saying that i cant go without one because i can i have been for 2 long years and counting! lol!..it just would be nice ya know..there are plenty of men who i come across every single day..so getting a man is not a problem..its just having the right one in my life..but once again thanks
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reader, wonderingcat  +, writes (10 March 2009):
 You don't always need to have a boyfriend to be a happy and content person in this world, you know. I mean, would it be okay to have a boyfriend but you are miserable because of, lets say, you and him are not compatible? Or would you rather be unattached but very happy and at peace with your inner self?
Yes, it is a nice warm feeling over all, when you have a loving partner of course. But please do not focus on "having a man on your side", but focus on being happy and confident and compassionate. Men are sooo atracted to these qualities. The good ones of course (and they are the men you want by your side, right?)
How do you do that? Think happy thoughts. Think of achieving good performance at work, in school, think of helping others who are in need (shelters, hospitals, charity organizations, etc etc), learn photography, learn salsa dance, learn to do makeover (for your girl friends), etc etc. You will have so much fun and do so much good for your fellow human beings (and animals, perhaps), and you will be an instant hit!
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reader, LIERIN +, writes (10 March 2009):
 Hm
Sounds kinda like me ... I have broken up w my fiance about 7 months ago ... dated couple of guys here and there .. but everything went wrong ... and even tho all I want is to be happy and to be with someone that will love me, I seem not to be able to find anyone ...
I do believe its because even tho I feel I am ready ... I am really not and I am still emotionaly stuck on my ex. Maybe you have the same problem. Maybe you are trying to find "him" in all those guys ... but that wont happen ... maybe you jsut need time, to find yourself, before you will be able to find the special guy for you ...
good luck
xoxo
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