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writes:Hi I am in the strangest relationship i have ever been in.This man is married but please no telling me i am a home wrecker because that is not the case here, I have been in this relationship for many years this man doesn't love me but he knows i love him, as a matter of fact he is still in love with his wife, but he calls me his best friend, but saying that he also sends me txt messages every day 3 or 4 times sometimes more always sends me kisses and hugs says good morning and good nite to me every day, tells me he misses me and never wants to loose me, calls me on the phone 4 or 5 times a week and of cause we also have sex, and says i am the only person he feels truely relaxed around and we can talk about anything and everything.What I don't understand what exactly does he do with his wife then? they don't have sex and sleep in differant rooms and have done so for many years.He is a very high profile man and would have no trouble getting a woman but he wants to be with only me for some reason, and i know there is no one else. iv'e tried so hard to walk away but i can't and he won't let me. We are both in our 60's and I don't understand why he has stayed when he has no love in his heart for me. why keep wanting me. when he loves his wife, He just keeps telling me he can't give me more as he's commited to his wife. well why want someone else if thats the way you feel?? I hope someone out there can help me understand what he is wanting and really thinking. Thank You
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2010): Thanks everyone for your replys.I notice a lot of you mention the sex .but actually that side of our relationship is not as important to him as it is to me. he sometimes tells me that he thinks i only want him for the sex,which of cause is not true.most times he just likes to cuddle and tell me his worries as he says i'm the only person he feels good with and he can fully relax with when we do have sex it is great too.but it's not the be all end all.
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (30 October 2010):
 He stays with you because it's convenient for him. He gets the full attention and love of two women, while you only get half of him. You don't ask for more than to be only second best, you simply give him what he wants. What incentive does he have to change that arrangement?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (30 October 2010):
 You are all in your 60's so the lack of sex isn't due to age. There is a breakdown in their communication. They gave up patching the hole in the relationship and he's looking outside to fill that hole. He is doing what he's doing because he's selfish. A man wants what he wants. So where do you draw the line between a man being a man, or just a plain asshole? I do believe a lot of couples sleep in seperate rooms. Well, blue ball him, let him explode. Then he can start doing something like visiting the best marriage counsellor in town, or divorce his wife finally because he's sick of the lie.
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1 +, writes (30 October 2010):
He is selfish and knows he can get away with it. If it has been years its not going to change.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 October 2010):
 Ok well if he was so committed to his wife then he wouldnt be having sex with you, yes it does sound like he cares for you but he doesnt love you he just sees you as a friend who has benefits (ie sex) do you really want to be the other woman?
How do you no for sure that they are sleeping in seperate rooms? He may have just told you that so that you would give him what he wants. However maybe his wife is not up to sex much and that is why he is looking for sex else were but its his wife he wants to be with and wants to spend his life with do you really want to be the other woman?
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