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writes: I have a question about sex, I am now in my 20s, and I still get petrified at the thought of getting pregnant and i know how my body works and i keep track of my cycle and all, but recently me and my bf of 2 years had sex without a condom for the 1st time, and my period had been finished for 1 day (this was day 5 in my cycle), and we didn't follow through till the very end if u know what i mean, he pulled out just in time; but I'm scared. I'm a very careful person with these things and this is the 1st time we got carried away in the moment. And recently I've been hearing stories about girls my age who are getting pregnant from hardly doing anything at all! :(I'd like to hear your thoughts on if i should be worried, or if I'm over reacting. thank you
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (31 October 2010):
 If you are so scared of getting pregant then why didn't you use protection? You should go get yourself an emergency contraceptive at the phramacy right now. The sooner you take it the less the chance that you will get pregnant. If you want to have unprotected sex you should use a sympto-thermal method, buying a little device that takes your body temperature and tells you what days you are safe on, and what days you are not safe to have sex:
http://www.contracept.org/symptothermal.php
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reader, Battista  +, writes (30 October 2010):
Usually sex without protection is a good way of getting pregnant. I mean, that's what couples do when they want to have a baby.
As you have not mentioned anything in the post I am assuming you are not on the pill or anything like that.
I am really confused here; you say you are scared about getting pregnant and yet you have unprotected sex. Something doesn't add up. I mean, that is just plain stupid. No other way to describe it. Everyone knows the pull-out method is far from infallible. Why are you taking these risks?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010): condoms are good to prevent sexually transmitted disease getting into you. And you should probably be more concerned about those issues. Re condoms: you still have to apply and use them correctly. But for reliable contraception to stop getting pregnant please consider going on the contraceptive tablet. And visit your Doctor asap, because, yes, you may be pregnant. You will lead a lot of support to get through that if you are pregnant. It is no picnic to be pregnant. Its expensive and demanding and a whole lot of responsibility. There are lots of Dr visits, Scans to see how baby is. You may have to take folic acid tablets, calcium supplements. Your ankles may swell. Your tummy will probably get stretch marks. At one point your navel will pop out. And you will be exhausted at times. You should not smoke nor drink alcohol nor take illicit drugs when you are pregnant. You may have extended morning vomiting which is horrible. And all that is before the baby is born. After the baby is born your work load and the pressures on you increases by 20 times what you do now daily. And if you are already pregnant will the child have a father there to stand by you and the baby and help you with parenting. Se
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reader, Sandman  +, writes (30 October 2010):
 You should always be worried when engaging in intercourse without some sort of protection against pregnancy. The basic biological point to sex is pregnancy - so yes, you have reason to be worried.
However, the chances of pregnancy are decreased since he did pull out before ejaculation. I wouldn't use this method as a main source of birth control because it has a very high failure rate.
While barrier (condoms) and pharmacological (pill) methods are very effective against preventing pregnancy - the only 100% way to prevent pregnancy is through abstinence.
Hope this helps.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (30 October 2010):
 I know this is a dumb question, but ...if you are so petrified at the thought of getting pregnant , why would you have sex without condoms and , I guess from your post , without being on the pill ?
Ok, you got caught in the moment, it only happened once.
Once is more than enough for an "accident " to happen.
If the idea of pregnancy is totally unbearable to you, please don't play Russian roulette with your body.
Go on the pill, and / or use condoms.
Said that, I guess you want to know how likely it is you got pregnant this time. Not much. If he pulled out and you have a regular cycle with ovulation around the 13th-15th day , the risk was really minimal.
There is still a risk though in ANY day of your cycle, so...you know what to do.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 October 2010):
 hi well you say you are hearing stories from girls hardly doing anything and getting pregnant? Well you need to have intercourse to get pregnant you cant get pregnant any other way as when the sperm is released it only has seconds to live in the atmosphere.
You said he pulled out before he ejaculated so that does reduce the risk of pregnancy but at the same time guys pre come through intercourse and therefore sperm can be released before they orgasm therefore there is a chance that you can get pregnant this way.
In future always wear a condom or have you thought of going on the pill in case an incedent like this happens again? I think it would be worth going to a trip to your doctor and asking about contraception this will get rid of some of your worry.
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