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writes:Hi,I am a 27 year old male and madly in love with 28+ years old dreamgirl of mine. She really was my dream girl..beautiful...Infact she is divorced and i am never married...she was very depressed when going through this and i was her new friend..she used to tell me about how she is trying to make it work and what all she did for her ex...i use to dream about it...i started liking her and after almost a month after meeting her i opened my feelings to her...she did not accept it right away...she took couple of days to say 'yes'.....i am hiding this fact from my family that she had a previous relationship...and sometimes i get scared about it...and feel depressed....i love her so much....we have fights very often...i dont know what goes wrong...but we have fights....i made her meet my parents and they liked her...her parents like me too...we make love like crazy...and i love her so much...but it has happened so many times that she does not care for my satisfaction...i go for long...30-40 mins...but when she is done...she wants me to stop...even if i am not done....i asked her to start taking birth control...she kept saying she will take it...but never did...and when we had argument once..she said " i wont take pill unless i get married..i dont have trust"...i felt so hurt..that i am taking care of her like anything...make her feel special...and she said this to me...she indeed grabbed me from my collar...and said names...it hurted so much.....now its been 24 hours we are not talking...she never calls back when we have fight or argument...she does call me privately onece//twice coz she wants to hear my voice...i am very weak when it comes to love...it's me who has gone back to her always...whether its my fault or hers...i try to let go and make things work her...and make her smile coz i need her and can not stay without her...24 hours is a too much for me to handle without her.....now what should i do...it is getting every week affair...i dont know if relationship is like this...i always dreamed of relationship to be loving, caring, pleasing, sex, understanding...where am i wrong?..i feel depressed so many times..and heartbroken..please advise.
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reader, Renee okc +, writes (29 July 2009):
You have some serious issues with this women, Maybe because she is divorced she isn't really ready for a full committed relationship and she just said yes to you to make you happy. You can't see what is really going on which is she is playing with your emotions if ya'll go through this every week with not talking getting back together again and so on. To me it sounds like you are the one head over heels in love, Don't you feel it is a problem when she doesn't even care if you are sexually fulfilled sex isn't everything in a relationship but it should be mutual. You had to force her to meet your parents what other clues do you need, she probably doesnt call you because she feel's you are too needy and It sounds that way to me too a women wants a good man but a woman doesn't want someone she can run over and control all the time you need to set boundaries with her and stop letting her just disregard your feelings. She may have some emotional issues that she hasn't worked through yet. You need to work on you why are you so in love with a person that is willing to treat you so badly and I understand that she may not do this all the time but women need someone strong and will take up for himself I bet if you start to do that she will be even more attracted to you and then you will see a positive difference in her.
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