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writes:My relationship with my ex ended almost 6 months ago as she had been raped 12 months ago. She was able to tell me just a couple details to start with but admitted she had an orgasm.she said she couldn't get it out of her mind or understand how it happened but felt guilt, not just having an orgasm but admitted she that she partly wanted him to do it again.about 2 weeks ago we had talked and she told me everything he did to her and how she felt through out. she said one reason she couldn't be with me was the guys thing was a lot bigger than mine and after she had trouble enjoying the feeling of me inside her.That I just felt too small for her.I'm asking you for your thoughts on can you identify with this and is this normal. i hope you can help me understand my ex more
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (29 August 2013):
 her body had a physiological response.
her brain is not dealing well with it.
the key is she's an EX you have no need to worry about her any more.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (29 August 2013):
What are you trying to figure out? What's the point?
It's not uncommon for women who were raped to feel pleasure and/or orgasm. It's probably one of the more difficult things to deal with for many victims.
The penis size thing I can't help you with except to say that it's probably not as simple as she's making it sound.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (29 August 2013):
 The nicest thing about "ex-s" is that they are "ex-s"... so you needn't waste/spend even a moment - or one joule of energy - thinking about them.... WHO CARES (about any "issues" your ex- might have?????)
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2013): I could be way off the mark here...but this sounds kinda troll -like to me
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (29 August 2013):
 The definition of rape is being forced to have sexual intercourse against your will. The fact that she had an orgasm is coincidental: it was still not an act she consented to.
I can understand that she feels conflicted about it. Did she get rape crisis counseling afterwards? If not, it's still not too late to do so, and might help her sort out her feelings about her experience.
You say she's your ex. Do you still hope to get back together with her at some point, or just want (as you said) to be able to understand her attitude?
I'm sure other aunts and uncles will have more to tell you as to how they see what happened........
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