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writes:my boyfriend is a real tough manly kind of guy who doesn't like to talk about feelings, he refuses to utter the words 'i love u' no matter hw much i ask him to, does it mean that he doesn't love me enough to even say it?another question is that he gets really angry when i tell him about guy friends that i go out with. He mockingly say that he does not want to know anything about my guy friends and ask me to stop telling him about them. But to me, i tell him about it cause i have nothing to hide, i want everything out in the open, for instance, if he saw me on tha streets with another guy, misunderstanding would occur right away, bt if i told him before hand, then i'm not doin anything wrong, I just don't get it.. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2009): Sigh... do you really need an explaination for his behavior? If you observed people and their behavior, you would understand... Maybe it is insecerity on his part... Maybe he doesn't trust you hanging out with other men... Do you dress slutty while hanging out with your guy friends? Are your boobs all hanging out in front of your guy friends? I mean, does he actually have a real reason to get that worked up about it... Do you give him a reason to get worked up about it? If not, that is good... But if you don't have a valid reason to why he would get upset with you hanging out with other guys, then maybe it is nothing but jelousy... I know that my man wouldn't be hanging out with other girls because, I hate to admit it, I would get so jelous and put up a fit... But I really don't have to worry about him hanging out with other women, because he's only interested in me... Anyways, put yourself in his shoes, would if he was hanging around other women, who you can't compare with, and he's having a good time just being in their presence... Wouldn't you get pissed off too? BTW have you ever cheated on a guy before? Maybe he knows you cheat and is waiting til he knows that he really loves you and that you are sincere that you love him, before he says he loves you, instead of getting his heart ripped out of him. Whatever the case, you should really give more detail, because right now, I kind of blame you. EATCHYOWHOPPA!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everyone for the post, it's really helpful. i'll try to be more understanding towards my bf in the future. =)
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reader, anoms  +, writes (17 February 2009):
 he sounds very very protective this is probably his way of showing you how much he cares without getting emotional. some guys cant bring themselfs to say these things because of emotional problems in there youth and feelings of insecurity and bad experiences, if you can try to sympathise with his problems im sure he will open up to you more and more over time, gudluk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): I'd say he's just immature and thinks saying 'I love you' is a girly kind of thing. Either that, or he's the perceived archetypical Aussie 'bloke', the sort that keeps his Amber Nectar cool by keeping it in the shadow of your hat. The sort of bloke that, when you ask 'Does my bum look big in this?' replies 'Yeah, but it takes the attention away from your face'.
Ok, so you've got nothing to hide and he doesn't want to hear about all your male mates and what you get up to with them. Would you get just a little bitty jealous if he told you all about his female mates?
The other side of this little argument, if you can call it that, is that from his perspective he could be thinking, at the back of his mind, that you could be telling him all the innocent bits and keeping the intimate details to yourself in your efforts not to arouse his suspicions about what's really going on - all in his mind of course.
The way I see it, he's simply immature, has a jealous insecure streak and likes to appear to be the big man that doesn't cry or get all soppy around women. He might grow out of it but it could take a while. Meanwhile, to avoid his anger, don't mention other blokes in front of him unless he asks. He'll probably tell you he loves you either when he's good and ready or when you threaten to leave him. You shouldn't try to drag the words out of him because it'll most likely have the opposite effect.
If you ask him if he loves you you'll probably get an answer something like 'Do bears shit in the woods?' or similar. I think you could draw a parallel between you and him and the characters played by John Travolta and Olivia Newton-John in the film 'Grease'.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): there are two reasons man do that for me :
1. maybe he's not serious, i ever have someone like that ,i'm his 1 of 5 gf he had. and i only knew after he ends everything, everytime i ask where he was or something want to know he refuse to answer. and he dont want me to tell because for him, its like an obligation to repay that he also have to tell u with who. and if i asked him say i love you he also angry.
2. he really a maleshoganist.hahahaha..dunno what im saying, he just a person that act fool like a man should ever do, he thinks its not important saying i love u as long u re his and hes acting like he dont want to know about u going out, coz he thinks u shouldnt be going out with guys without he knows or knows. he just angry coz ure go out.and a way of defend is say i dont care.
cheers
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