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writes:hi guys hope u can help bit of a long story but here we go.ive been with my partner 7 years and we have one son together (4 years old). we deeply love each other but the problem is his family.im a very straight forward person and speak my mind alot which sum ppl might find irritating but thats just me. im not two faced and i dont like people hu are.my partners family have rare contact with my child even tho they live few streets away. the thing is i live between the sister and the daddy so when they are going to each other houses they completely pass mine and never call in to say hello to my child. i feel sorry for my son cos he does know hu they are as i regulary show him fotos of everyone we know but there has been times when he has said o look theres granda and asks why he doesnt wave or come into our house. i dont know what to tell him. my partner says it doesnt matter but it does to me. i know my child needs nothing from them as i provide everything my child has. i got a bit fed up with this so aired my views to a few of them and others who know them and think they are a good family. they didnt like this and therefore we have fallen out.i now feel guilty cos my partner was always like the black sheep of the family and never liked that but i think he feels worse now that they dont speak to him because of me. his sister is very demanding and would have called him demanding for him to go get cigarettes for their mother even tho she lives jus down the road from her and we live an extra 10 mins away and neither of us drive. when my partner doesnt do as shes telling him she throws tantrums and shouts nasty stuff at him. for instance she sent a text message demanding him to go to the hospital to see his mum at a certain time to suit her but he had other commitments were me and my son were required and therefore couldnt go. so he texted her back sayin he couldnt go and to stop trying to control him that he could decide for himself when to go to the hospital. she sent him a reali cheeky mesage back saying 'when did u learn how to write and grow a set of b*lls' i think this is awful as he does have issues with his grammar but how dare she be so ignorant towards his feelings.he wouldnt let me speak to her if i did or do he would flip his top. he wants me to not speak to any of them even his brother's (who i have had no problem with at all) new girlfriend. i dont understand why; he says that im causing trouble when really im jus trying to stand up for him and his brothers new girlfriend i was jus being polite and saying hello to. does anyone understand him? is it jus me? should we jus break up?
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reader, themisses  +, writes (6 February 2010):
Just stay away from his family as much as possible. As for your son they are going to have to explain to him when he gets older why they acted the way they did.just be nice to his parents especially his mom. They have some kind of influence = P
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