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*myy23alxo
writes:My boyfriend is so sweet. We've been together for over a year now and for some reason I don't trust him. He trusts me completely. It never used to bother me, we used to be fine before but now I get upset all the time when we watch movies with girls that are trying to be sexy or if he sees stuff. I don't know why..I know it may be stupid but I always have the thought in my head that when he sees this women, he's gonna think she is a lot prettier than me. He knows it bothers me so he always looks away whenever something comes on the screen and he stays looking at me. He tells me he doesn't care about them and that he is only attracted to me and doesn't notice or think about other girls. I don't have good self-esteem or self-confidence so when I hear this stuff, and also when he says I'm the most beautiful person he's ever seen, I just don't believe him because I don't understand how I could look so good to him. I worry about him and he doesn't even talk to other girls. I don't know what's wrong with me. I really need some advice. I want to keep my relationship with him but sometimes it really hurts because I don't know how to fix it. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2011): I don't really do anything. I just wake up every morning and say one good thing about myself if i can find one,
And ive spoken to my boyfriend about it too.
The best thing to do is be open about it,x
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reader, mmyy23alxo +, writes (18 July 2011):
mmyy23alxo is verified as being by the original poster of the question CupidChaos, I know he is really considerate. It seems to keep getting worse though and I still don't know how to fix it. I just can't help getting upset. What do you do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 July 2011): I have exactly the same problem as you, and im around the same age so i know exactly how you feel. But the way i see it, my boyfriend is with me because of me, my personality, and partly my looks,
I focus on my good points and come up with positives to why we're together;
like how well we connect etc,
it makes me feel a lot better, try it 3
he seems extremely considerate, dont lose him3!
Keep me updated,
Clara3
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reader, mmyy23alxo +, writes (14 July 2011):
mmyy23alxo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for the help. Our relationship is struggling because of this and I really want to change but it's hard. I can't help thinking about the worst :/ I love him so much and I know if I were with anyone else, he wouldn't treat me as nice as my guy now. I have not been cheated on in the past. I've only had one other boyfriend before him. I've never been with a guy that has been that bad to me so I don't understand at all. Is it because i've never experienced being with a horrible guy?
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reader, ilanah tromans  +, writes (14 July 2011):
 Aww your boyfriend sounds so sweet, I would love a boy like that, maybe you have trust issues because a boyfriend in the past has cheated on you, but this does not mean he will cheat on you, write down all your feelings and everything and just try to trust him more you'll soon grow out of it!
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reader, vishi  +, writes (14 July 2011):
He is totally in love with you. you're lucky to have a guy like him. and you should see that even though you don't fancy yourself as a really pretty girl, he does. he is trying to make you comfortable with yourself. not many guys can understand that, let alone doing it. i think whenever these thoughts of insecurity come into your mind, you should try to push them away and think about some really beautiful moments that you had with him, and tell yourself that he loves you so much. all your fear will go.
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reader, sammy1986 +, writes (14 July 2011):
if he has given you no reason not to trust him then if you carry on like this you are going to lose him as it sounds like he really loves you and remember he is with you not them he is with you because he loves you just try get them thoughts out of your head and try working on your relationship with him
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