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writes: Dear Aunts,I broke up with my boyfriend recently and admit that I am devastated by it. A month before that, he said to me that I mean the world to him and he cannot afford to lose me. Then the break up happened because of a big fight.I didn't actually try to convince him to get back with me. Two weeks after the break up I sent him a series of texts that I miss him, i still love him and I am so empty without him. But told him that I accept the break up and was only pouring out how i feel. If it makes him happy to be without me, then I am happy for him. Not a single reply I received.Now, it's a month after we split, I received a text message from him out of the blue which says.." I was at the mall today and met your John's colleague" (John is my cousin)He knows my cousin but have never met him.Now, I am wondering..why did he send me a message like that? I replied after an hour with "that's good, my cousin just transferred to another company actually"But no reply again.I know I should not think seriously about this but I wanna know what's his point in sending me a message like that? Can I take that as a hint that he still thinks of me? Is there any little hope that he can change his mind and reconcile with me?Thanks so much in advance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): Thanks girls for the insights.
I just went online but invisible on my YM and he is online too. His status message right now is "member of broken hearts society" (corny LOL)
yet i never IMed him or anything, i feel like I have to leave him alone. Time can only tell. :(
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reader, Tinysplatty  +, writes (17 June 2009):
 Hello hun,
I totally understand how you feel. Broke up with my boyfriend who I loved dearly...he also told me several things, like 'i was the one' and whatever. However...there was another girl. He is with her now...but he still obviously thinks of me, because I still talk to him, and he tells me so.
Seeing as you broke up because of a fight, I am guessing there is no 'other girl'. That already means there is more chance that he still thinks of you. You say you sent him texts telling him how you feel, but he didn't reply...maybe he is a guy that does not deal too well with feelings. Maybe he just wasn't sure how to put across what he wanted to say. The truth is that most people still think of their exes for a while after a break up, and I'm sure he does still think of you. And there does have to be a reason behind him randomly texting you...but you have to find that out, because it may or may not be the reason you think.
The only way for you to find out is to ask him. That is the bottom line. Seeing as he doesn't seem to respond to texts, try another method? An email, and IM or even face to face if you can manage it. Just be frank about how you feel, and ask him how he feels about it all too. Ask questions, make suggestions. For all you know, it could result in you getting back together. If not...at least you don't have to spend time trying to figure out what he's trying to say.
Good luck!
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