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writes:So me and my boyfriend are going away for a weekend I heard him talk about having sex with me to his friends but I don't mind I think we are ready. Thing is he has had sex before and I'm still a virgin, what if I'm not good enough, what if his first was better than me, what if he doesn't like it?
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reader, nester  +, writes (11 April 2011):
If you are not ready to have sex with your boyfriend then you should not be going away for the weekend.and Another reason is that if he had any kind of respect for you what so ever he would not be telling his friends anything at all. so you need to let this one go and find someone who acts like a grown man. because what will happen after the fact. think about it.
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (10 April 2011):
 I agree with Lazy Guy. As you being a virgin, however, I have to question why you would go spend a weekend with your boyfriend and put yourself in that situation. Let's face it... when couples go away they usually have sex, especially if they are sharing a room or are in a vacation location.
Also, I have to question the integrity of your boyfriend. I would expect him to brag / talk about having sex with you if he was a teen, but in your late 20's? What kind of a cad does that, especially within ear shot of you?
If you aren't ready for sex yet, then you aren't ready and you should stick to your guns. If you feel that going on this weekend getaway is going to compromise you moral standards, then perhaps you sleep in different rooms or simply postpone it.
Secondly, I wouldn't worry too much about measuring up with lovers in his past. It's all about the emotional connection. If you love the man, that'll come out in the love making. It'll also take some time to understand what he likes in the bedroom and what he doesn't care for.
Good luck... sounds like you've got some decision making to do.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (10 April 2011):
 You know these reasons you mention are pretty silly don't you? So, if your worries are REALLY about these issues, just forget it.
But if you think you are not ready and just making up excuses, then you might just not be ready yet. It happens and perfectly understandable. Why don't you feel ready? Not ready in general, don't think the relationship is right (yet), going to fast?
Considering your age and the fact that you are still a virgin, might you be feeling rushed, not like that he is talking about his friends about having sex with you as if your opinion on the subject not even matters?
If you are not ready, you are not ready. But make sure it is for the right reason (how you feel) not for silly things like thinking sex is hard or anything. No, first time sex is rarely perfect but people have been managing to get past it for a very long time.
Do what you feel you want to do. It is your life, your body, your choice. When it is right, it will come naturally.
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