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writes:this isn't a relationship question but i need advice. ok so i wanna know how to get rid of "love handles" and the extra leg fat on the upper legs. I am very skinny but i have fat on me and i want to get rid of it. so any tips would be greatly appreciated! i'm embarassed to let anybody see my body (ex. in a bathing suit) and i want to be able to wear a suit this year and not be embarrassed of my body. Reply to this Question
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reader, Older Women dating Younger Men  +, writes (5 February 2011):
I have used to have a similar problem. It was where I used to drink a lot of alcohol. Once I stopped drinking I turned to a lot of walking and I noticed some good results. Firmer muscles especially in the leg area and in the fresh air which was a real added bonus.
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reader, kittikat +, writes (30 March 2008):
 Honey, who are these "friends"? If they bring you down by making comments, then they are probably just being jealous teens who want to feel superior. That's the game we play and it's even worse now than when I was your age. Please just be happy with yourself, if you're active in sports that's awesome! Stay with it, it's so good for your mental and physical health. I had a similar, but differnt problem in HS and Jr High- I was 5'10" at 12 years old and weighed 105 lbs. We moved around a lot and every time I made new friends I had the "comments". I was called the "Food Bank Posterchild of Ethiopia", "Olyvoil" and "Stick" - nice. It hurt soooo bad and I started to walk with a slouch to look shorter and hide my boobs. I wore huge baggy clothes, I felt so gross. Guys wouldn't even talk to me unless they were like 4 or 5 years older (scary) and girls were always "talking". Years later, I was nominated the class clown because I developed this weird sense of humor to take the attention off of my giraffe-like appearance. I was even Homecoming Queen my senior year and the only reason I went was because I had this crazy ass dress that was too much fun to pass up! But seriously, through it all, I didn't know how to deal with my so-called friends constantly making comments about my body. I'd never even payed attention to it before. It was nothing but a vessel that moved me from here to there. I played soccer from the age of 5. I come from a father who was 6'7" and a mom who is 5'11", so genetics and activity had a part- I thought I was happy and then these damn kids made me think I was somehow a freak. By the time I was 16, I saw what most people were really about. People suck dude. Superficial nonsense. When I was 17, I was offered a modeling contract with Ford, I said "no" because aside from the fact that I was extremely self-conscious- I honestly didn't want to contribute to the ever-growing epidemic of misguided young girls and I had a partial scholarship to college-I was supposed to major in criminal justice. After several encounters with the agent and persuasion from my family, I ended up modeling in Japan a year later. I hated every moment of it because no one could see who I was inside and I felt guilty for flauting myself-knowing that people were looking at me and comparing themselves based on what I looked like. I quit after about a year. Now, I like myself sooo much for that-I knew that there was more in store for me than looking "pretty", but it affected me to the point that I became an alcoholic years later (sober now). FinnMcCool has a good point, it is great that you're thinking about your health at such a young age, but don't do it for guys! A real man who's worth it will like or love you for WHO you are, not what you look like. Good luck and drop their jaws at your 10-yr reunion by being YOU!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you everyone :) i forgot to add that i play sports and i am very active. i try to exercise alot. and i am starting to eat healthy. i'm just very sensitive and when one of my friends says something to me it really brings me down. soo yeah. but thank you a lot i really appreciate it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): You are wise to be worried at such an early age, it shows you care about your appearance (your health will greatly benefit too) and this will always be appreciated by guys throughout your life.
Cut out the junk food - crisps(chips), fried food, fizzy drinks, pizza, cakes & pastries, sweets(candy) etc and eat more healthily. Fresh fruit & veg, grilled meat instead of fried or baked, consider joining a gym/ keep fit class.
Yes, curves are great on a woman but you're right not to let it get out of hand. Good luck!
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (23 March 2008):
 like said before you are only 15 and you shouldn't be embarassed, you should be proud of it. curves are way more sexy than skininess and altho you are skinny a bit of weight here and there is not a problem at all. guys will prob like you better for having that tiny bit of weight that annoys you.
email me if you want anymore info
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reader, kittikat +, writes (23 March 2008):
It's baby fat! You're still young and every one's body develops differently. You should eat several small healthy meals a day, stay active and just embrace what you have. Think of your body as a flower seed- you get it out of the packet, not really sure what it will look like, there's a picture on the cover- but it's just a picture, nurture it and watch it grow into something beautiful. Know that those little "flaws" that you think you have are what makes you unique. Despite what others say about your body, you need to rock the swimsuit with confidence "love handles" and all. Nothing is more attractive than confidence. If you come across people who ridicule or make comments, screw 'em. If they can't see the person inside, than they're not worth your time and don't know what they're missing. It's all about Karma. Exercise will tone you up, but don't overdo it, be safe. I know it seems horrible now, but your body is still growing and you really don't know how it will turn out just yet. One thing that you SHOULDN'T do is go on a crash or fad diet or drop your calorie intake to an unhealthy level. These things may or may not help you shed pounds, but it's temporary and you'll end up messing with your metabolism- which means that your body will start storing fat because it doesn't have enough fuel. You really can't lose weight in specific spots either. You lose it where your body wants it to. Females carry fat in those places for a reason and it all comes down to genetics. Does that make sense? It may seem cheesy, but go to this website, it's pretty dead on...http://www.teensexercise.com/WelcomeTeens.html Good luck and please be healthy!
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reader, HMBBabyface +, writes (23 March 2008):
 Exercise! And you're only 15! You still have plenty of time to finish developing. Eat properly and exercise plenty and you'll have the body you desire.
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