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writes:I'm so confused! Okay, so I've dated my boyfriend for a couple months now, but we've known each other for about a year now. He dates one of my good friends right before him and I started dating. Well, they've been talking more and more and I've told him I'm uncomfortable with it, but he says they're just friends. Lately he's been talking to her more than he has with me. Now there's this other guy, I met him about a year ago and we really hit it off. He was just visiting and had to go back to where he lived. Which is ten hours away from me. We still keep in touch till this day. But we've been talking a lot more lately and he really wants to be with me. And I believe that he's a good guy. He's christain like me. He also visits every year so it's not like he's a complete stranger. My boyfriend, he's not christain. And for me, religion is big for me and my family. Don't get me wrong, I love my boyfriend. But now I feel like we're drifting apart. He's being 'friendly' with his ex girlfriend and I've been talking to my friend more and more. What should I do?? Should I break it off with my boy because I don't think he's right for me?
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reader, joanna11 +, writes (13 April 2012):
if you dont think he's right for you AND you like another guy its simple, you kinda have to break it off with him because otherwise your always going to be worried about him
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth  +, writes (13 April 2012):
 It's obvious that both of you are more interested in other people so it doesn't make much sense to keep this relationship going. End the relationship if you're not happy with him, if you like someone else more than you like him. It's not fair to remain in the relationship when your affections have begun wandering. You know what you want to do. Do it.
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reader, Dataluke  +, writes (13 April 2012):
 Its better to make one last attempt at your current relationship than just drop it.
Have a serious talk with your boyfriend, tell him of your fears and that you want him to be closer to you and talk to you more.
If things don't change, that's the time to consider breaking it off with him.
Either way, your happiness comes first.
All the best, Dataluke
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2012): Yes, I think you should break it off with your boyfriend, because he is sharing more with his ex than with you now, which you don't feel comfortable with; while at the same time you are getting closer to your Christian friend who wants to be with you.
The fact that you say religion is big for YOU and your family, automatically it will make it easier if you connect with your Christian friend, who you say you really hit it off with.
The fact that you have doubts this early on, means he is probably not right for you. Let him go free to talk as much as he wants to his ex :) while you give your good Christian friend a chance to see what may develop. Even though it will be a LDR (Long Distance Relationship) it will be worth it if he makes you feel secure, treasured, and HAPPY :)
Good Luck!
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reader, MistressNataliee +, writes (13 April 2012):
Right now you probably feel that this is huge but in reality it really isn't. I have been there around your age with the guys and to be honest, ive had quite a few since! And so will you! Don't feel as if you have to meet "the one" now. Don't even feel like you should have a boyfriend now. Split up with your boyfriend if he is getting overly friendly with his ex and you don't feel comfortabe because there is sooo many other guys out there and so many opportunities to meet them! Stay single for a while? See how it pans out with the long-distance guy but realise that being in an LDR isn't easy at all.
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