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writes:man i know you guys will say just another teenager crushing over her teacher,well its not like that....i really love him thats why i try to hide it so i wont jeprodize our relationship,or scare him away or worst start rumors that would lead to his down fall,i try to handle this maturely and responsibly as possible.i even try to get into guys my age and what they offer me,but everything leads back to him,butlately i get sick and tired of whats happening on at school.i try to hide my feelings for him,but many girls are all up on him(alot of girls in my school like him as well)and people wanna see it normal,but once im near him eevryone wants to have a heartattack....so can anyone please tell me what i should do??thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2008): A bit of background: I'm 15, with the same situation.
I'm afraid that there's no real answer to your question, nothing that you won't have already considered.
I know what you mean.
My most important pieces of advice would be:
1. Don't think in terms of schoolgirl crush. Your feelings may well be classified as a schoolgirl crush. Who the hell is to judge you for that anyway? Your feelings are valid, and they are your own. There's nothing wrong or insincere about having a schoolgirl crush, in some cases it's a lot more real than any other type.
2. Don't expect ANYTHING of it. Assume that nothing will happen. Then, if you do ever tell him on your last day (nice suggestion, somebody earlier) or when you leave school, it will be a bonus if it does.
3. Enjoy it while it lasts. Focus on the good aspects of liking him. The imagination has no limits.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): oh god i can relate to you so much, i love my teacher...i'm 19 and he is 58. i wish i could give you some advise, i dont know what to do myself. it feels so good to read here and to know i am not alone. how are you us doing? i cant try to get over him, because i just love him too much. i dont want to stop thinking about him. next year i leave school. i dont want to think about the pain i will feel next year. the pain i feel right now is so bad :( but still it feels so good to love this amazing man... do you guys think our teachers know that we "like" them? dont you think they could tell by the look of our eyes...???
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): Only you can know for sure whether this is a schoolgirl crush. I fell in love with my teacher and everytime i talked to him i fell a little deeper. I think your handling this well you obviously care about him alot some girls i know wouldn't care about starting rumours. At the end of the day you've got to take a step back from the situation theres nothing you can do about the feelings you have for him and you can't help who you love, but as you know you both stand to lose a lot he could lose his job. What I suggest is you just carry on being friends with him and maybe on your last day of school when he's not going to be your teacher anymore you tell him how you feel about him possibly give him your number but make it clear that they're will be no hard feelings if he doesn't use it. I hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2008): Wow. I can so relate to your problem. My teacher is so handsome but i really care for him, i would kill myself for him, i' love every single part of him, everything reminds me of him, hes all i think about... people say that its not love becuase you don't know the guy properly, and maybe they're right... but i know that if this man asked me to marry him out of the blue, i would say yes. What is love if not that? It can't be a crush, its too painful, too real. a crush would be a boy you saw around school and thought "ooh he's hot", an infatuation would have you imagining sexual fantasies 24/7, but love would be you imagining yourself waking up next to him after a sex-less night and doing the morning crossword, or washing his greying underwear, or visiting his hospital bed everyday even if he might not recover. I would do every one of these things for my teacher, i don't thing that age effects our ability to recognise love, and i definintely don't believe that age differences can make a difference. Love is blind, sorry bout the cliche, but its true.As for what to do about your feelings.... i don't know. i have no idea what to do about how i am feeling.
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reader, Tevote  +, writes (1 April 2008):
 Well all i can tell you is to just continue being friends with this person. Although there are rules as you're to young and he's to old blah blah...BUt once you leave school if you still have these feelings why not tell him then? See how he reacts. it's better not to do anything now incase something goes wrong and you get expelled, or into a lot of trouble or he could lose his job. Just have fun with him while you can and become good friends, then maybe when you leave something will bloom?
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reader, BigSis  +, writes (1 April 2008):
 He must be lush...but you know as well as anyone else ~ he is out of bounds, he's there to be your mentor, your guide...someone who's been entrusted by your parents to educate you. Don't mess with him, and know this, it IS just another school girl crush, nothing more.
Keep trying with guys closer to your age that don't have any bounderies.
Take care,
BigSis xXx
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