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*azzedUp
writes:I have been very ill lately, having seizures and panic attacks, due to a hereditary nerve problem. I recently met a girl who is 14 and really took to me. She called everyday to see if I was okay, and she has just been an angel to me. I am 18 and a freshman in college. She is 14 and a freshman in high school. She is a model, and a movie extra. I really care about her and as soon as my dr released me to drive, I went to see her. First thing she did was curl up in my arms and ask me to tell her my life story and not leave out any details. She is so much of an angel to me, and her mother has given me permission for her and I to date. What troubles me is not her age, but rather the fact that I fear I am not worthy of her. I am terrified I won't be able to be enough for her. I really do want to be with her. Please tell me what to do to feel more confident in my ability to care for her. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 November 2011):
 she is 14 and you are 18, it's a huge gap here in the states it's also illegal if you do anything sexual with her and it can ruin your life...
she's 14 she is a CHILD.... just because she's got a pretty face and models and does movie extra roles, she's not magic... she's just a kid... be yourself...
BE careful... the fact that the first time she saw you she was physical with you (curling up in your arms) is a bit of a red flag for me.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (19 November 2011):
Just because she's a model and a movie extra doesn't mean that makes her better than you. She obviously seems to care about you a lot, which means that she considers you to be worthy of her. You cannot help your nerve problem and it should not be allowed to bring you down. This medical issue does not define who you are so do not let it! You love her, she obviously loves you, so enjoy it instead of destroying it with negative thoughts. You are worthy! I'd take a guy like you over the many popular d-bags walking around any day and it seems your gf thinks the same way.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (19 November 2011):
 Just be yourself and have more confidence in yourself. It is clear that she likes you as who you are so don't try and change yourself, you need to believe in yourself more and accept that you are enough for her. Have confidence in yourself. If she felt you where not good enough for her well then she would not be with you or would not be interested in who you are. So just be yourself because that is the person she likes.
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