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writes:I first dated this girl in high school.. kind of fell head over heals for her then she broke up with me which sucked.. a lot. Now I have been intimate with many women and not wanting a relationship even though I know they want one... I just cant bring myself to commit to anything, even though the girl I'm sort of seeing at the moment is great in every way.. I don't think I can just do a relationship after what my ex did.Am I screwed? cause I can't see myself getting in one again..
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reader, MissUnique  +, writes (13 November 2008):
 There's actually a couple reasons you might not want a serious relationship, maybe everything just stemmed from that experience. Yeah, that did suck, so maybe you're afraid you'll get dumped again?I don't think you're screwed, more...kinda lost.If this girl is great, throw yourself into the relationship. Not in a creepy way as in stalker or clingy, but commiting to a relationship will help you overcome this fear. I don't actually think it has anything to do with this girl.Hey I sound like a shrink or whatever :)Oh well. Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2008): Don't let your exes behaviour make you judge other girls. My ex didn't treat me how he should have, and my other unofficial relationship was no better, my very first relationship went down the pan (but we were both 14 and naive then). I am now in a relationship with an amazing guy (who is actually also 14) and I used to struggle to trust him and expected him to behave like my ex. This was unfair of me because he his 100 times the man they were and after 7 months I have pretty much learned to trust him. Trust is something I had to train myself to do, and it might be the same in your case. If you have feelings for the girl you are seeing, then make it official. If she's right for you then over time you will learn to trust and commitment won't seem so daunting.
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