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22-25,
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writes:Generally, I am not open at all. Not shy either. Just prefer to keep things private and off limits. This has happened because I've lost trust so many times that I built up this barrier, and I know it's unhealthy. But that's happened because of fbibgs I don't want to talk about. I want to talk about the fact that I think I've lost trust in everyone I know. To be completely honest, I feel like the one thing I can trust is my pet.So this is the situation: -- Sister aged (21-29) (S1) lives in another country-- Other Sister aged (17-24) (S2) lives in my country with Anger Management Issues-- Mother (M)-- Younger BrotherS1 has always shown a front face where she is supportive of me and always has my back. But when she has her private chats with S2, they back chat. When I imply or confront it, S1 is "hurt" by my accusations. Another distant family member has also told me privately that they've also lost trust in S1. S1 has fun and enjoys everything in front of me but behind my back she chats about me and breaks the trust I once had. S1 was literally seen as our inspiration since childhood but I've lost that trust.S2 is just Urgh. I try to keep distant from her because she is toxic as hell. I know she chats aswell so I don't wanna be near her or her negativity. Side note: S1 and S2 enjoy belittling other people in private eg on Instagram they'd backchat. S2 has major issues and doesn't know when to stop. Doesn't let me do what I want, and when I want to participate, hides it from me by calling it girl stuff.For my mother, I have found out some things I see as disturbing that I've stumbled upon. I don't want to talk mention anything more. I know she loves me but I can't confide in her. At all.My brother is a little snake. I can't trust him with anything because he's 100% snitching on any secret I tell him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2017): Hey guys thanks for the feedback. I talked it out and everything's okay. I should open up more, you're right. Since this question is not really helpful in any way, how do I delete this from the website?
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (20 December 2017):
 Your question seems to be a puzzle and we're expected to be detectives and solve the riddle!
You haven't said anything much and I wonder why. If you're asking a question then tell us clearly. How can we help you if you're this cryptic? You seem to conceal more than you reveal! You criticize your sisters, say that your mother did something disturbing and that your brother is a snake. But what exactly are you asking us?
And I must ask you, I'm curious as to why the age range of your sisters is so huge? Not that it's even important to list their age but if you are, what's the deal with 21-29 and 17-24?!
One piece of advice for you is that you need to loosen up and stop taking yourself so seriously. No one is out to get you, not your siblings and not agony aunts on the internet. You are giving yourself too much importance and reading too much into others actions when it most likely has nothing to do with you. However, if you still need help then do write in with more details, we'd be happy to help
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (20 December 2017):
 OP, this is too complicated. Answer these:
How old is S1? Not 21 - 29, her actual age.
How old is S2? Not 17 - 24, her actual age.
How old is your younger brother? If he's not your age, then it's actually rather cruel and dramatic to call him a snake - younger siblings are *supposed* to tell on you, the same way you will have done to your sisters, even if you're sure you didn't.
I'm sorry you feel you can't trust your family, but most teenagers don't. If you've got friends, talk to them. If you haven't got friends, try to make some. Speak to a charity about it, like Mind or YouthTalk.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (20 December 2017):
 Sorry but I don't quite understand what your question is. You tell us you can't confide in your family. I'm sorry to hear that. Do you have a bestie you can trust? The answer is don't tell people things you don't want them, or others to know.
Navigating teenage years can be painful. Take the lessons and remember them for the future. You are building the person you want to become. Don't be bitter. Be self-contained, confident, and your own person.
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reader, Allumeuse +, writes (20 December 2017):
Sorry this is way too cryptic. I have no idea whether your family are all out to get you or whether you just take yourself too seriously. But I'll tell you one thing, you should never think of a child as a 'snake'
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