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writes: I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years and we got engaged a year ago. He has a 6 year old daughter from a previous relationship who does not see her mother and who I consider to be my child. We have had our ups and downs, but for the most part we get along, we spend time together and have a good family life. The only problem is our sex life. It was good for the first year when everything was still new, but it has slowly gotten worse over the years. He tries to do everything he can and make me happy in every way possible, but nothing helps. At this time, the thought of sex and intimacy with him makes me cringe. I love him very much but I am afraid I'm not in love with him anymore. I find other men attractive, but not him anymore and I find myself unwilling/unable to try to make our relationship better. I am afraid that I am staying with him for the sake of our daughter and because my life revolves around him and our family. Not sure what I should do. Any advice is welcome.
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reader, Toria +, writes (26 September 2006):
 I think you need to think about whether it really is love or just habit because it really sounds like you have fallen out of love with him and staying with him for the wrong reasons.
You need to talk to him and explain how your feeling, possibly some time away from him might help you in realising what it is your feeling and wanting as sometime when we aren't with that person we can clearly look at the situation and it also stirs up feelings that aren't always showing when we are with them all the time.
Good luck :o)
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reader, Tine  +, writes (25 September 2006):
 well if you feel like this then i suggest you talk to him and let him know how you feel. Really it does sound as if you've fallen out of love with him and honestly its not something that you can help, if it happens it happens and theres no going back. However staying together with him just for the sake of your son isnt fair, on you or on him. so talk to him and see what decision you can both come to however dont feel pressurized into staying when you dont want to.
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