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writes:my girlfriend and I had a talk the other night and she said that she doesn't feel the same way she used to for me. I don't know what to do. I don't see why she doesn't feel for me the way she used to. I mean things used to be great between us, and now were going on a year and I don't want to lose her. shes everything to me. she says we rushed into the relationship and that its too serious. but its been almost a year. what do i do? please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2011): (WRITER) thanks everybody. we had a talk on the phone the last night and we kinda came to the conclusion that i need to give her some space. give her time to think. cuz i thout it was kinda odd that when were on the phone she said that if i really needed her "that bad" that she would stay in the relationship for me. i thout theres gotta be some kind of feeling for me if shes willing to that. but idk... we had planned that she would come down this weekend n go to w/ to my work's christmas party n sleep over n we could also exchange gifts. (she lives an hour n half north of me. we dont see each other as much as we would like)...also she doesnt really let me defend her or protect her. shes had perverts try talking to her n told me about it. but she doenst get the fact that they are stepping over boundaries. n she also doesnt see that alota single guys my age develop a relationship with a girl with a specific intention. they want to date her. thats the problem ive had a few times already. n i asked if hanging out with a guy for a WHOLE WEEK, litterally sunday to saturday, was alil excessive n without much hesitation she said no. i didnt really say anything else. cuz that night she talked to him on the phone cuz apparently there was somthing wrong with him. he was blaming himself for our issues. saying its his fault n wat not. i didnt think much of it at the time but friend made me realize that maybe hes playin up the "sympathy card". my heart frickin sank...i hope ta god thats not true...please comment back. thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2011): talk to her if she told you how she feels it's because she still wants things to work out otherwise she wouldn't even bother saying anything, she shared how she felt with you you just need to keep by her side and say how you feel to her
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2011): Hello i've been in a similar situation with my ex and i thought that her feelings for me would win in the end over her internal struggles and confusions but she flat out ignored me for months despite sitting next to me and me trying to include myself in conversations and now i feel like if i had been of assertive she may be with me now. my advice is this, she was open enough to tell you what she was feeling so be open enough to tell you how you feel back. don't let her close you off and don't close yourself off from her be talking to her and share how you feel
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 January 2011):
 You need to listen to her. She is telling you that she feels things are getting to serious for her so cool things off a little bit. Give her some space.
Sometimes feelings change towards people even if we dont want them to. We change as we grow up in life and you just need to accept that she has changed in the last year and wants different things. Sit down with her and ask her what she wants to do. Goodluck.
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