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*ombi3nonii
writes:I'm only 19 years old and i've been dating this one guy for about 4 years. But our relationship is far from perfect. I dont even know why i'm still with this guy. I know that sounds mean but he has done soo many things that i should have just walked away from. but i'm stupid and i stayed with him. he made me have sex with him within like 3 months of our relationship. THEN 3 years later, i found out, the whole time, he was trying to get with my best friend (who he dated before me). He gave me a promise ring a few months after that...then he tried to get with his best friends girlfriend (who is my biggest enemy (not gunna get into that. i hate her)) He has told me he hates me and never wants to see me again, never loved me. He's gone out with other girls and told me that he is much happier with them. but while he was dating these girls, he still got sex from me! (i know i'm stupid okay) He has never done anything romantic for me. i always have to beg him to go on dates with me. This year, he wasnt even going to plan to do anything for my birthday. no gift, no date at all! its just one thing after another and the more i think about all these things, the less i love him. He treats me like an effin sex slave more than anything. and THE WORST PART IS....i'm engaged to him and i'm taking care of his now 4 month baby boy. God i just dont know what to do anymore. i dont have my high school diploma yet (i'm going back to school to work on that because i dropped out of the last year of high school because i didnt want to go through the year being pregnant) i keep trying to talk to him about this. how i'm not sure we're right for eachother but its like he doesnt listen. he just grabs my finger, shows me the ring and tells me he loves me. he tells me he's going to change but its hard to trust him anymore. and why now change!?? why not a year ago when i found out he was trying to get with his ex? We are in constant fights because everytime he isnt with me, i'm wondering what he's doing, who he's with and all that stuff. i dont trust this guy at all. i dont know what i'm doing by typing this but i guess i just want advise on what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): You don't even need to ask for advise to know that you need to leave his sorry, sniveling, useless behind. Not now, though.
RIGHT. NOW.
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reader, christyyyf +, writes (30 November 2010):
 Honestly hun wake up! He is just using you and he will continue to as long as you let him! He has done horrible things to you and you should have left him a long time ago! You deserve much more and to be happy.. stop settling for this piece of scum. He doesn't care about you and don't let him try and make you think he does either by simply putting a ring on your finger. He will do anything to get you to trust him or make you think he loves you so that he can simply do what he wants without consequences!
Leave him now before things get worse.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 November 2010):
 Grow a backbone honey!
He is using you, and YOU are using him right back. Whatever it is that you get out of being with him, you need to figure that out and consider if that is worth staying for, if not... Move on. You are way to young to get stuck with the "wrong" kind of guy.
Don't settle, ever.
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reader, Adorskable  +, writes (29 November 2010):
 Can you really imagine yourself married to a person you can't trust. Imagine what your life is going to be like married to him, not knowing if he is telling you the truth, if he is being faithful. You already know this marriage will be a big mistakes and you should listen to your brain and walk away. Don't think that your stuck because you have a child. Do you have parents, family, friends that live close by asked them if you can stay with them for a while just while you manage to stand in your two feet. Family is always willing to help just be honest with them and tell them that your boyfriend has treated you like trash and you don't want to be with him anymore. Think on your happiness and don't ever think that you have to settle for less.
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