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*ountrified Soul
writes:HelloI have been dating my boyfriend for a year and four months. I do not love him, but I care about him alot. I know he loves me, and this hurts him to know this. I feel horrible for feeling this way. I have had bad relationships in the past and I believe this is why I cannot love my boyfriend. I have only been in love once. When he talks about buying a house together or renting an appartment it scares me alittle to think he might be the one. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Countrified Soul +, writes (17 June 2009):
Countrified Soul is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your replies I really appreciate it. I believe the reason I cannot love my boyfriend is because I have been hurt in the past. It seems like as soon as I say I love you, the guy changes and is totally different. They become who they really are and its not what I signed up for. I am worried this will happen again. I want to love him im just scared.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2009): He isnt the one. Dont think he is as you dont love him. You either tell him and deal with the consequences or leave him. you could just talk to him about stopping with all the `we`ll buy things together` and stuff and see if it progresses or leave him.
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reader, lova boy  +, writes (16 June 2009):
just tell him how you really feel, because if you let him find out for himself he's gonna be torn
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reader, StudentOfLife +, writes (16 June 2009):
 Say what you told us here to your boyfriend. He might like to hear the truth about this.
If it's because you're still confused about the feelings you have for him, tell him you are so he doesn't start the buying process or anything against your consent.
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