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writes: My boyfriend fancies me more than I fancy him.I've been seeing a guy exclusively for the last two months and we're now talking about potentially living together. I really enjoy spending time with him, I like all his friends and feel like we could do anything or go anywhere together.The issue is that he wants me sexually more than I want him. So far the sex we've had has been good and we're intimate and affectionate towards each other. But I don't look at him in everyday interactions and go phwooarrr, like he says he does with me, and like I do when I see other guys I find more physically attractive.Do you think this will become a bigger problem for me (and us) further down the line? Or do you think that the companionship we've got is more important what I should concentrate on more? Reply to this Question
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reader, bellachic385 +, writes (26 October 2006):
 Well being attracted to someone is only part of the eqation but it is impprotant. If you arnt happy with the way other parts of the relationship are then move on and find another man. He might take it hard since he is sexually more attracted to you. But if that is the only reason then don't let that stop you. If I could sugggest going to the gym together or going shopping together, to change his look. See how it goes and give it a try. Good luck.
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reader, Lemonpixie  +, writes (26 October 2006):
 Well, I believe that if you are having fun, give yourself a good 6-8 months before moving in. Moving in too soon will mess everything up. If your already doubtful way make a move that will lock you into the relationship already. Some people grow on you, I had an ex who I thought was marginally attractive at the time but as months wore by he became irresistable to me. I also clean him up a bit whilst dating him, haircut, cute clothes, things of that nature. I'm not saying make him a barbie doll, however if your shopping for a bday or gifting holiday of some sort buy him clothes you find really attractive and next time her goes to the barber tag along, or suggest he get a certain haircut. A great personality can trump mediocre looks so stick with it a bit more and see what happens, however don't move in until your sure.
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reader, davie  +, writes (26 October 2006):
Looks aren't everything, and in the long run the other things you share with one another will likely be of more importance. It sounds like you do find him attractive to a certain extent so I doubt there would be any problems.
You could get together with someone else you find more physically attractive and find them not as special then your present boyfriend - as there is a lot more to someone than their exterior.
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