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writes:me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 and a half years and we both love each other but recently hes been getting very ratty with me n taking me for granted when he asks me to do stuff for him n if i say no he goes off on one. recently as he was going away on a trip he had been texting a girl once he said hey sexi but said it was a joke and after id confronted him and this girl they both said nothing was going on but said i was controlling and wrong for checking up on him. but recently as he was going on another trip hes been texting her every 5 minutes she text him saying promise me you wil walk with me xxxxxxxxx he always texts back even when were having a night in on our own. iv told him again i dont like her and think shes after the attention but he wot listen to me what do i do????
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reader, lil_dreamer  +, writes (17 August 2009):
sounds pretty shady..
he shouldn't be texting anybody else when hanging out with you for one, so the last thing he should do is flirt with another girl in front of you.
you shouldn't have to take that, tell him its either you or her.
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reader, artistical_bumblebee +, writes (17 August 2009):
 i wouldn't go off on one, just point out that you feel he is taking you for granted. relationships are two way he needs to be reminded of that. Tell him how it is making you feel but not in a shouty way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009):
...if you feel suspicious, worried, and hurt... and that he is taking you for granted, then there is something wrong.
Even if there is nothing actually 'going on' with this other girl, you are his girlfriend and if he loves you, you should feel loved, and trust him.
He is right that sneaking around looking at his phone was wrong, but if you are worried, and want to protect yourself from being hurt, it is understandable that you did that.
You really need to talk to him, try not to get angry or upset, just be really honest with him, and tell him of your fears and ask him his opinions. If it's worth trying to make this relationship work, he will respond well. If he doesn't want to talk about it, or if he can't reassure you, you are probably best off finding someone who won't disturb your time with him to text-flirt with someone else.
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reader, beachbabe  +, writes (16 August 2009):
 Well girls that are "just" friends with guys never acts like that with there guys friends especially textin ever "5mins".. seriously.. this chick likes your boyfriend! But your boyfriend is thinkin different..lol
What you should do is 1) be stong.. 2) be clam & sweet..
You need to talk to your boyfriend, tell exactly him exactly how you feel with him talking to this chick so often. Also ask him how he would feel if You had a guy friend that was constantly flirting/hittin on you.
Good luck,
xo
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): Your b/f is cheating on you maybe not sexually but defo emotionally he needs a kicking he reminds me so much of my ex. i got so tired of it i confronted the girl. tell him to sort it or to get lost
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): Your man is being cagey and retty for a reason, he is in to this girl and knows it is wrong.
A relationship is about accepting responsibility ror your partners feelings and esp when you are creating the disscomfort that they feel. He is being selfish and cruel to you because he knows he is in the wrong.
Sounds like the girl is playing with him or he would probably have left.
you can wait it out and she will get bored or become boring. Or you can get out and give him you to think about.
If you end up single by leaving, you would have in the long run. Give her what you think she wants and i would bet that she tosses him aside... then it is for you to decide if he is worthy of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): He does not careless how much this is upseting you,play him at his own game start texting some guy and see how he reacts if he starts moaning tell him if he stops texting so will you
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): Sounds like he's emotionally involved with this girl to the point that he's put her needs ahead of yours. At this point I'd care less if they were sleeping together... emotional betrail is just as bad... I'd get ready to cut your loses, and get your stuff in order and then kick him to the curb... You don't deserve this kind of treatment and it's a form of abuse... Using the "your controling" line is BS and he just wants to have you stop looking at his actions as there's probably something he still wants off you.
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