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*thz
writes:Hey guys,Let me get straight to the problem.. My girlfriend has joined the dance classes and she went there today and she was telling me what happened there! Told me that theres this guy his dance partner.. While dancing he tends to pull her hard towards him.. Like too close.. But I guess shes not feeling any problem from him..But when she told me all this I didn't like it much.. But I really didn't react to it. Am I being creepy or kinda too possessive..?Should I lay back a lil? Am I taking it too seriously..?I don't like it much but I feel that if I tell her I would seem too clingy or narrow. I still haven't said anything to her about this that I dont like it.. Confused eh! ?? Reply to this Question
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reader, Athz +, writes (13 September 2014):
Athz is verified as being by the original poster of the question I trust her but you know its the behaviour of mine that makes me feel this way.. Its just that, the other guys touching her while she dances makes me go crazy but I control it.. maybe it's because i feel jealousShe loves me and I ?oo love her.. I'll talk to her about this when the time is right..
Thank you for all your help guys.. You people really showed me the right path...
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (12 September 2014):
 Part of dancing is touching your partner. Some dances it's on hands, hand on hip, hand on shoulder and so forth, other types you move as one.
If SHE doesn't have a problem with it, why do you? If she has an instructor, don't you think if it was inappropriate the instructor would make sure he didn't do it?
He is probably more pulling her close to assert his "right to lead".
Unless SHE or the instructor see this as a problem, I think you need to chill out.
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reader, lovernfighta91 +, writes (12 September 2014):
 Honestly, it's normal she is your girl and you are protecting what is yours. So I would tell her how you feel and just explain you understand it's part of the dance and that you trust her but you just want to tell her how you feel you know. It shows you care n love her and would be there if the guy did try anything. But that's just my opinion
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2014): If you guys have been together long, or if you haven't, there's one VERY IMPORTANT thing in a relationship: Communication.
You should be able to tell her you're uncomfortable, but you should also trust her. If she told you about all this, then she might be trying to see if you would say anything. Maybe she's feeling uncomfortable and wants you to step in, or she just wants to keep you updated, who knows. However, TALK TO HER about it. Otherwise it WILL eat away at you.
If she responds negatively, then you know something's up. If anything, ask her if you can tag along to watch. If she's fine with it, then you don't have to worry about her. Trust her a little.
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