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writes:Hi aunts and uncles. My sister has recommended this site to me because she's been on before. I really hope you can help me :)I am a 28 year old woman and I'm having an issue with the fact I hate staying at my boyfriend's house. I have never liked sharing a room with friends or anything either, I have always liked my own space and I never get a good sleep if there is someone else there. With my boyfriend, we can have a nice few hours together but it always reaches the stage where I would prefer to go home instead of staying with him. I do stay at his often but I always want to get home as soon as possible the next day. He works every day so I usually have to leave anyway - meaning that I've managed to hide how I feel so far - but I hate feeling like this.I've tried to explain this to people before but they have all said it'll change when I meet someone I really love because I will want to see them all the time. But until now that's never happened, with my current or previous boyfriends. And I'd say I have loved them.Is there something wrong with me? Why don't I feel the same 'I can't get enough of you' way everyone else does? Could it be that I've not met the right person yet, or am I just weird? I've been with my current boyfriend for 2 years now so it's not a case of me not being ready. Reply to this Question
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reader, LuvHurts  +, writes (15 April 2014):
hmm i actually i had a similar problem staying at my ex place. i felt uncomfortable and the bed just didnt seem right and i had a bunch of excuses. so i kept telling her i had to leave (after sex too) and she ofcourse thought i used her as a booty call. i had to explain to her it isn't that i dont want to stay and spend the night...its just that i am used to my own comfy bed where i can roll around in LOL. she is welcome to stay at my place and she has. well long story short ... i eventually got my body use to sleeping at her place but my hours of sleep had been cut. it really just takes time to adjust, i think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2014): This could be for any number of reasons, maybe you're just a light sleeper? Or does he move around a lot in his sleep. talk, snore, cough? In my previous experience, this has been the case, the last ex snored like a steam train and actually had sleep apnoea due to smoking, which was exacerbated if he had a few drinks, I had to sleep on the floor with ear plugs on holiday and eventually get a room with twin beds it was so bad. He also thrashed about. He blamed me though, said I should "get used to it". Lol.. so it could just be you're been woken by snoring or movement.
We all need a good night's sleep and I've rarely been able to sleep in the same bed as someone else. If someone fidgets or is a noisy sleeper you have no chance.
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reader, MSA +, writes (13 April 2014):
 I can actually relate to how you feel. When I was with my ex, I didn't enjoy sharing a bed with him. Half of the reason was because he had a snoring problem and I could never get a good night's sleep when we slept together. The other half of the reason was because I felt more comfortable in my own bed, sleeping by myself. I never wanted to cuddle with him or had the "I can't get enough of you" feeling. I've come to realize the reason was, although I loved him, we just didn't have that spark/passion in our relationship.Then I met my current BF.. I felt it all... all the "I can't get enough of you", all the "I can't stop touching/holding you", all the "I can't get you outta my mind" all those feelings.. I have with my current BF. I look forward to snuggling against him every night, I don't care if he snores louder than an elephant (he doesn't lol) I'd rather not sleep than not be able to hold him and snuggle up against him every night. I want him to be the last person I see/hear before I sleep at night and the first person I see/hear when I wake up in the morning.I'm not suggesting to give up on your current relationship.. talk to your BF about how you feel, he will understand and you may no longer need to spend the night at his place.. maybe try to do something fun and romantic together in the evenings. Have a great night out... enjoy each other's company. I would suggest trying things to re-ignite the 'spark' between the both of you before giving up... and if you've tried, yet the 'spark' is gone.. then it might be time to move on.Best of luck!
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