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writes:Hi,I need some advice, i feel like im going crazy! I know this sounds bad but i don't really like my boyfriend going out with his friends. We have been together 4 years and i do love him alot, but ive always been really insecure and quite a paranoid person. Im always questioning what he is up to and who he is with. Partly down to past experiences with ex boyfriends (i've been hurt alot in the past). My boyfriend is quite outgoing, where as i am more shy, i dnt mind staying in alot. Well hes started going the pub with his friends twice a week which i dont like and its causing arguments. I know that the friends he hangs around with are guys and girls, some of the girls who are quite flirty. Everytime he goes im sat at home worried what hes up to. He tells me he would never do anything and hes just having drinks with his friends. But i can't help but be paranoid. I dont really have any friends i can go out with so im mostly just sat at home. I want to overcome this. What should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2012): You have to stop this or you will drive him away. You need to develop a life of your own, its no good being sat at home wondering what he is up to. You need to find an interest, something you enjoy doing. Do you have work-mates? Do you have a sister or cousin you could go out with? Its not healthy to just have him as your only companion and focus. You need to build your self esteem,to get out there and live a little!.
He has been with you for 4 years so why still the paranoia and insecurity? He isn't your ex's, he's him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2012): Read this book: Men come from Mars, Women come from Venus.
It will help
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