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writes:Hello Friends, Am not brilliant enough what can i do. I have a boyfriend and he told me at the initial time he loves me, but as time goes on he discover that am not brilliant, he always talk to me, try to teach me, but the way he teaches me is as if he making a jest on me. I don't like it, what can i do about this problem. Does this guy loves me? if yes the way he teach me i don't like it. Any thing i do for him he always complain, even if i cook for him he does not appreciate it, and i know am a good cook. please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (29 November 2008):
 He probably doesn't know he's causing you such pain. Maybe he gets a little exasperated when you don't catch on as quickly as he does. Maybe he gets off on feeling superior. Whatever the reason, he probably just doesn't understand how hurtful this is.
Is there any area where he is not so brilliant? Anything where he falls short? Nobody is perfect, so there must be something that he's not so good at. Before you consider leaving him, give him a bit of his own medicine.
The place you might start is to criticise his teaching. Tell him he's a crappy teacher -- in fact, the worst teacher you've ever had. Tell him a teacher is supposed to make a student gain a sense of achievement from learning something -- and he doesn't do it at all. Maybe he will wake up to himself. If he doesn't, and just pours on more abuse, walk away.
Good luck!
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (29 November 2008):
 Hunny from what you say this guy is putting you down a lot, The only thing I can say to you is if you are not happy leave walk away he doesn't sound very nice. He makes you feel stupid which of course you are most definitely not..it sounds as if its all control I cannot be 100% as I'm not there but this does not sound healthy at all sweetheart, you need to leave I feel and get your self esteem back...NEVER THINK YOU ARE WORTHLESS OR NOT BRILLIANT EVERYONE IN THIS LIFE HAS SOMETHING GOOD TO OFFER AND IF THIS PERSON CAN NOT SEE THIS HE IS BLIND AND HE IS THE STUPID ONE....TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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