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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey everyone,I'm a very shy person and this is my first real relationship..My boyfriend and I are in LDR now,sometimes actually most of the times my boyfriend talks abt what I did,or how I moan or what I say when he does things to me! And then he would actually say how I say it,me being shy I ask him to stop and he finds that very funny and starts laughing..Honestly I don't like it,why talk abt private moments on the phone..Am I wrong here?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (6 September 2013):
 well you would talk about them in person if you were together but your LDR... he's just having a normal relationship with "his woman"
what would you rather talk about the weather?
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reader, Aunty Babbit  +, writes (5 September 2013):
 Many people in a LDR enjoy intimacy over the phone as they can't be together.
I don't think he means to be insensitive I think it just gives him pleasure to remind you of how good you are together and he wants to relive it with you.
Honeypie is right, if he was posting this on Facebook or putting the conversations on Youtube then you would have every right to be affronted.
You're very shy so perhaps you need to let him know how uncomfortable this makes you. Of course you could always try to learn to be more comfortable with it.
Perhaps start the conversation with some intimate talk with him but limit it to "making out" stuff, very low key and nothing too heavy. Then, another time, when your more comfortable, up the ante a bit and talk about things you'd like to do, over time you can intensify these chats.
If this is impossible for you then you'll just have to tell him you don't like this type of talk and insist it stops.
I hope this helps AB x
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 September 2013):
 If you two are in a LDR I think he just want to keep it fresh in your mind. If he posted the stuff on FB (let's say) then I would think it was utterly inappropriate but over the phone with his GF? Not really.
Are you wrong? I guess not. You feel the way you feel. I think you are taking it the wrong way though.
Personally, I don't see anything wrong with it unless you both have your phones on speaker in crowded places.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2013): Yeah you sound a little too timid / prissy.
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