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writes:Relationship Problem!Im in a 2year relationship with my boyfriends. We have been on and off a few times but always seem to come back to each other! During one of our breaks he slept with this girl who was supposedly just his friend, however im suspicious about whether it was going on behind my back, he promises it was not.I in the break slept with someone else too, im not saying im innocent.Despite this we have tried again, been about 5weeks and im paranoid that he is texting/thinking about other girls and that if he gets a female friend he is going to sleep with her (i know it sounds silly). I dont know what to do. I feel as though i can let him go and i can see my future without him, but i know that he loves me so much, more than anyone else could. When i think about us splitting forever it makes me feel sick and upset.Any thoughts on what we should do!?? I really need some advice to make my decision. Thank you x
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (6 September 2013):
 "I feel as though i can let him go and i can see my future without him, but i know that he loves me so much, more than anyone else could."
if you can see leaving him and you can see a future without him AND you two have such a rocky relationship that you break up sleep with others, get back together try it again and it's still not good... consider leaving.
do you stay with him out of fear of being alone?
you won't be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2013): When you're with him you feel jealous, insecure, and paranoid he's sleeping with other girls. He is. You forgive him and take him back. That's telling him it's okay to sleep around.
Your feelings aren't about him, it's living with the thought you can't control what he does. He has already let you go. You're the one still clinging.
You've slept with another guy. So you might as well be single. Let go. You're dying to feel free. You're tired of his crap.
Time to break the cycle. So you can get over him, once and for all. No more cheating.
He's a bad habit, and an addiction. Break the habit, and you'll be free to get on with your life. The paranoia will go away.
You'll feel sick for a little while; but that will fade away too.
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