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*annamarie19
writes: I'm in a really difficult situation here and need help. My boyfriend and his best friend have been friends forever and they are really close and are always together. My boyfriends best friend has been with his girlfriend for about 6 months now and me and her just don't get along at all. She has cheated on my boyfriend's best friend multiple times and is so disrespectful to him. I may have been in the wrong about this but I ended up telling my boyfriend that she was cheating on his best friend, I knew the guys and they told me they were in fact sleeping with her and they said she told them she didn't have a boyfriend. So then my boyfriend and I decided to tell his best friend what was going on. I thought it was the right thing to do because I didn't want him to continue getting hurt and thought he deserved the right to know he was getting cheated on. Anyways, she has been mean with me since day 1. She is always starting problems with me over everything and is always trying to argue with me. She took my boyfriend's phone one day 'as a joke' and started texting me and was harassing me and being down right rude to me. This was all way before the cheating incident ever happened so that's not the reason she is always rude with me. My boyfriend's best friend is still with this girl and after all of this has been going on over the past few months, me and her are just kind of enemies now who want nothing to do with each other...it's kind of sad actually. But since this girl is my boyfriend's best friends girl my boyfriend still deals with this girl a lot which means I have to deal with her sometimes too and I really hate being around her. This situation is so complicated and is just really doing my head in and I'm tired of all of this. I don't want to be around a girl who is like this and who is rude to me and makes me feel crappy when I'm around her. I don't even know why my boyfriend's friend is still with her after she still to this day cheats on him and doesn't even really care about him. What should I do?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 April 2013):
 It's simple. No double dates with boyfriend's best friend and his girlfriend. End of problem.
Sadly you and your boyfriend were out of line in telling the best friend about her cheating... it was NOT your place to "rat her out" Obviously, he opted to either ignore the information or he already knew about it and had already made his choice. So you see, that not everyone has the same standards or morals that you do and while some would leave for cheating, others may not and that's their choice and their right and you have to respect that.
Sounds to me with the phone issue and everything else you are all still quite immature.
I don't see how it's complicated at all.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (24 April 2013):
So, tell your boyfriend that you don't want to have any contact with her anymore. When she's around you won't be.
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reader, loony10 +, writes (24 April 2013):
you have absolutely no reason to be around this girl. she is not good to you, she disrespected your bf when she took his phone and pretended to be him, and she obviously doesn't care about her own bf. she has no loyalty and from your description, does not seem like a good person with any redeeming qualities. tell your boyfriend that being around her is too much negativity that you are not willing to add into your life. This isn't someone you have to get along with, like your bf's mom or sister or even friend. this is your bf's friend's cheating gf!!! come on now, if it didn't affect you, then it's fine. Clearly, you are troubled by this and you are adding stress for no reason. Talk to him, explain everything and say that you will not be coming along the next time she's going to be included in your plans.
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