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writes:At the beginning of summer vacation, I was dumped by my (now) ex-boyfriend for confusing "reasons". I had very limited contact with him over the summer, and we didn't see each other in person at all. With the lack of contact, I was able to get on with my life and get over him. Once school began, I encountered him a couple of times, and we started talking again. As good as it is to have him as a 'friend' now, I still have a strong attraction to him. I heard through a mutual friend of ours that he missed me and wanted me back, which made me happy (much to my own surprise). I don't know why I'm feeling this way, or what I should do. Any suggestions? Reply to this Question
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reader, heyy  +, writes (20 October 2009):
your feelings are completely normal...
yall were together-yall had a connection especially! if yall were dating for a while... you don't just get over someone and forget everything that has happened between yall... so you're feeling the way you do because you are a human and have-- feelings lol anyone would feel that-ok i take that back if you were an asshole guy and didn't give a f*** you wouldn't be phased, but in any other case you would be...
you really need to remember, why yall broke up... it had to be for a reason... and if you were perfectly happy and really liked him and he just broke up with you, you should take that as a sign... he'll do it again and again... the sad truth is we grow up faster then guys, ok ill give the guys a break... we grow up faster then MOST guys! and ...some... of them don't know what they want... so my advice to you is, let him want you, yeahhhhh i know you want him but wouldn't you rather be happy but have that feeling like, oh i like him i want to be with him, knowing he feels the same way... or would you rather get back with him be all happy for a while and then him just break up with you and hurt your feelings again.... I went to the same thing and he is the same way today... he only thing i did by letting him come back and make myself get more and more attached to him... now i just feel like ughhh like i don't want to be with anyone else but him... don't put yourself in the position i did... take things slow-don't rush into a loveeeyy doveyy relationship...
I mean, you can do whatever you want, but...
(your brain is smarter then your heart)
I know thats not a good thing to say and i kinda sound like a debbie downer, but its the best route to take if you are looking to not get hurt...
If you don't care about getting hurt... hell, go for it!! :)
Hope I helped,
Good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2009): Eh. Do you want him or not? Are there any guys you like better? Anyone at all you have a crush on? I'd say let ex byfriend stew over his mistake of dumping you while he has to watch you go on a few dates. Then re-evaluate how you feel. Trust me, you will NOT make a good decision until you've been out & flirting with other new cuties and are certain this guy's same old crap is what you really want!!! You need a date for this Friday and NOT HIM. Who is the lucky guy going to be?
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reader, DESTINY 23 +, writes (20 October 2009):
 You have moved on and your in a good place . If you got back now you would ( break up ) you will have all that work to do all over agian. I went through this I was with a guy and we broke up then he wanted to get back and I let him back in . Guess what happened ? After a while it was the same stuff we fought over when we broke up the first time. I cant tell you how mad I was at myself for thinking it would be differnt this time. The point here is its hard to stop seeing someone you love and have feeling for . But whats even harder is doing it twice. I think theres someone else for you . Move on with your life and keep going. I did it I never called him agian. Ive been dating and its been fun. I no longer want that kind of person in my life and am greatful I never called him because once the talking starts they try to get you back only to dump you agian. Its sad but true. Think with your head not your heart.
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