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writes:This isn't a relationship question per se, but I am at a crossroad in my life, and would greatly appreciate any advice.I'm 22 years old, going to college full-time. I'm pursuing a career in medicine, and hope to attend medical school to become a psychiatrist. In another semester I'll be graduating with my A.A. I'm wondering which university to transfer to. I have a high enough GPA that I can go to the top university in the state (UF) which is also my dream, and would be beneficial when applying to med school. On the down side, I'd be moving 6 hours away from my fiance, and my mom would suffer financially to support me.The other other hand, there is a near-by university, (FAU) but it hardly compares to UF. I'd be close, and wouldn't need to get an apartment. I'm not sure if I'd have regrets later on in life not going to my dream school or how it'd affect my chances of getting into a state medical school. :(
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reader, person12345 +, writes (25 August 2011):
 It sounds to me mostly like you're scared of changing things, moving away from your family, dog, and fiancé. Everyone gets scared when these big life changes happen, but you don't want to give up on an amazing opportunity just because you're comfortable right now. College is great but if you miss out on living in dorms you won't have nearly as much fun. You'll meet new people, make new friends, and I'm sure you'll have a great time.
Don't forget either that choosing a college isn't a binding contract. If you go to the better school and hate it, you can always transfer to the other school at the semester or end of the year. 6 hours isn't so far, if you can see each other every month or so I bet you can make things work with your fiancé.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2011): ***OP***
Unfortunately, he's also a full-time student, and he has opportunities down here, so he won't be able to move until he graduates (2 or so years).
I also have a dog...who's slightly selective with who he likes/dislikes, so rooming with someone would be a lawsuit waiting to happen. It's too bad I don't know anyone at UF :(
Oh, and I don't have a dad, so no he wouldn't be able to help pay. My mom hasn't said much about the financial part, but I know it'll hurt her retirement fund. :/
It's a hard situation
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (24 August 2011):
 does your chosen university not have halls of residence or a programme where you could share accommodation with another student to lessen the cost? how about renting a room, not a whole apartment? is your dad able to help pay? how does your mum feel about the financial obligation? i agree with person - it would be ideal if your boyfriend could move with you, he could help to support you financially - if he is intending to marry you one day this will benefit him in the long term, not just you
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reader, person12345 +, writes (24 August 2011):
It would seriously affect your chances of getting into a good medical school to not go to a great undergraduate program. If you are serious about your career then you need to go to the better school if you're able to.
Can your fiancée move with you?
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