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female
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writes:It's been 5 months and I'm still hung up on the same guy, we saw each other for a bit and kissed and stuff and it never went too far, then he told me he was off women and we stopped seeing each other and he saw other girls. Then at the christmas party we were flirting a ton and he would always be where I was, not like stalking me but as if he just wanted to be near me and nothing happened and I have noticed he continues to watch me at school. Then on Christmas eve we went out for a drive and one thing led to another really, we didn't have sex but we kissed a lot and things got pretty heated. Well I began to give him a bit of a blowjob, but he didn't come, we didn't really have time to get into it. At the beginning of the night he told me he wasn't sure if he should have been there or not. Then on the way home I began cryptically telling him that I wasn't over him, and he told me I should talk to this guy about how I felt. I knew he knew I was talking about him, and later when he came on msn I did tell him and he told me that I should move on but we continued to talk and flirt over the christmas holidays. Then before I came back to school I hinted that I wanted to finish what we started on Christmas eve, he told me he did want to see me but he wasn't sure if things would get complicated, so I basically left it for him to decided, because I just wanted to see him, friends or more, even if it was just "friends with benefits" at least I would get to be near him as I prefer the sweeter side of things. He texted me that daysaying w could and then he never texted me back. Then that night I spoke to him on msn and his last words to me were "give me some space... I'll talk to you soon x" this was two weeks ago and It's killing me. I see him in school and he continues to look at me, I have rarely spoken to him in school just like little coimments but nothing majorly. half the time I feel like I don't exsist to him. I noticed a couple of times when he talks on the phone to a girl he talks really loudly and watches me. And the other day he was talking about how he plans not to be alone for Valentines day and he looked at me the entire time he said it.My friends keep telling me to get over him, but something in my gut and my heart and sometimes my head is telling me not to, I am really confused. They keep saying I will get over him but it's hard, I can't stop thinking about him.I don't know what to do any more... I don't know whether to ask my friend to ask him what the hell is going on, or leave it and see what happens with him, whether I should continue small talk and maybe flirt a little? Or maybe I should just move on completely?
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reader, messedupfemale +, writes (20 January 2009):
 Move on and meet new people, sounds to me he likes the control element, he knows you like him and loves the attention. Please meet someone else, there are planty of fish in the sea as they say, trust me, I am 29 and have been hung up on many guys like you are in the past, you do get over it, becasue you meet someone else who treats you right and you wont give this guy another thought! Trust me on this one. He is not worth it he sounds really immature.
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