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writes:I recently told a friend how I feel about her and she said she has feeling for me to... we took it to the next level and slept together but then she started bein funny with me the next day and said she feels guilty cause she has a boyfriend but this boyfriend lives 100 miles away and treats her like shit. Anyway it got well complicated so I said to stay friends until we have sorted our heads out... I think we both have now... we were talking online last nite and proper flirting with each other and she was saying stuff about what she wants to do to me and all this stuff... I don't know whether it's a wind up, her messing about or she wants me to ask her out. Can anyone help me please? I don't know what to do and my best mate is in the same situation so we can't talk to each other about it cause neither of us know what to do thanks in advance x
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reader, skye +, writes (5 August 2007):
 I would advise you to draw a line beneath the entire experience and simply move on from this girl.
Im sorry to say this when you so obviously like her, but she cheated on her boyfriend with you. Imagine if you where her boyfriend? I know she says he has treated her badly, but she could have broken things off with him no matter where he lives, so it is a real possibliity she would cheat on you.
Its unfair of her to tease you in the way she has when she is still part of a couple. She is giving you false hope and leading you on. She might very well want you to ask her out, but do you really want to fall into the trap of her game playing? You could get badly hurt.
You deserve a girlfriend who wont mess you around and who is free to be with you. Please dont settle for a game player and a cheater.
Take care,
Skye
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reader, DV1  +, writes (5 August 2007):
 Tell her that she needs to stop leading you on, and I think that if you can, talk to her boyfriend. He deserves to know how his girlfriend is acting towards other guys...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2007): talk to your friend and see why she was being weird with you after you's slept together. see how she really feels for you and then discuss the fact she has a boyfriend. tell her what you think of the way he treats her. if she starts to get annoyed about that she isnt worth it and it is just a wind up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2007): Ask her out, she may say no she may say yes. Either way you will find out. Remember the old saying nothing ventured nothing gained. If she says no, then you can move on knowing she was messing you about, rather than thinking about it constantly...what if?.. what if?? she might even say yes, she's already slept with you which tells you that she fancies you. So grab the bull by the horns and phone her...
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