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writes:iv been with my boyfriend for 3 yrs now. Im a senior in highschool n i know i have my whole life ahead of me but i really do love him, but at the same time i wonder wat it wuld be like 2 be with someone other than him. i mean iv dated before him, but he was my first on everything. and about a yr or so ago he cheated on me (he says we were broken up at the time). it was with this girl he worked with. well we had problems because of it since then. on 3 occasions he turned 2 her for awhile and left me in the dust and our sophmore yr he went 2 prom with her even after he asked for my permission and i had clearly said no. well she ended up gettin fired a few months back because HER boyfriend tried beating mine up while they he was at work. ever since then things have been awesome between us. we spend almost all our time 2gether, but at the same time i cant help but to think that hes still talking 2 her. i know im probably just being paranoid and need 2 get over it beause he doesnt have her number in her phone... i check and i know thats wrong but i can no help feeling like hes hiding something from me like he had in the past. from one standing point i feel as if i need 2 forgive and forget since hes so sweet, but it still hurts wen he rarly says "i love you" thats why on the other hand i feel like i need 2 move on. And just try to forget about him and the whole thing. Everytime i think im ready 2 leave i keep getting pulled back. Please i need help!!
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reader, purple_butterfly  +, writes (11 August 2009):
I am in the 3rd year of university and something very similar happened to me. there wer a lot of problems between me and my guy and there came a point where it was really impossible for me to forgive him and i broke it off. but he was really not willing to break up coz he loved me and we ended up back together. I gave it a shot. I do not regret doing so. I wud keep checkin his phone to see if hes still in touch with his exes or not. I am way past that stage now.
You know dear, sometimes we love someone so much that even the slightest thought of something going wrong ( like him talkin to tht girl) scares us a lot. But you know what? Just forget it once and forgive him for whatever happened before. Try to get it out of your system eventually. Try loving him without being worried. Always remember that when youre honestly in love with sumone, and if sumone cheats on you, you never had anything to lose. It was the person who cheats on you whos lost a person who loved them immensely.
If hes being sweet, you shud shower him with a lot of love too. Just keep giving and dont expect. A guy is like a baby at this age and all he needs is comfort , love and trust. give it to him and see how slowly youd get him to love you like anything and open up to you. make him feel like its okay if he did something wrong, youre still there for him and shal forgive him coz you love him. a person cannot change till you give him another chance.
hope this helps.
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