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writes:Ok, the thing is at college, there is a girl who I really like, she's nice, sweet, good looking etc and I don't know if she likes me back. We get on really well as freinds, she laughs at my jokes, she smiles at me like all the time and we always pretty much hang out when we are at college, like we will split up from the group and we will just walk somewhere and just talk about something.If I do something like, touch her ever so slightly, like just pull at her arm to get her attention, she pulls away and says "Get off me" then kind of goes a little red in the cheeks. I don't get it. Am I looking into this a bit too much or does she generally like me? Also, there is another guy in our class, nice guy, we are both freinds, and so is the girl I like, and he gets pretty close too her too, like play wrestles with him all the time but she kind of "enjoys" it.Help ?
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reader, Chrono +, writes (21 January 2009):
Hey there,
Hm this is a tricky one... I think from first glance that she probably likes this guy who play wrestles with her. Physical acts usually signal attraction. I know when i liked a guy thats all i done. I kidded on to be ticklish places so he would try to tickle me and i would carry on with him and excuses to be close by him.
but on the other hand it depends how much time she spends with this other guy in comparison to yourself. It works differently for different people. Some people are afraid for feelings to be so clear and could be why she pulls away. She could just like having fun with this guy but have no romantic feelings. What sort of subjects do you talk about? do you have alot in common? Do yous talk about relationships at all? When i liked my guy i used to try find out if he has a gf, who hes been with before, how he views relationship etc in subtle ways as such ... well i thought it was subtle but probably not haha. Do you guys talk about feelings much and how you hate or love particular things about the world.
All of this REALLY depends on the person. For e.g Im KIND of a shy person. I like playing with people (like the wrestling) but with some people its a bit too much. When i get nervous in situations i laugh alot and kid on to be enjoying something sometimes even though i am not and find it hard to say no to people. I would rather do physical stuff with someone i like than hide away. while others are the opposite.
from MY perspective i would maybe say she prefers this other guy so dont get too attached just yet until it is made clearer. Her pulling away from you and attension with the other guy could be a back off warning for you. If you never try you will never know, you are good friend with this person, could you afford to go out with them and face the possibility of loosing that friendship if you break up? find out what you value more. If you cant live without her then maybe try talking to her.
Let us know how you got on!
Lauren
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2009): sounds like she only likes you as a friend
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